- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
So. We have been planning my bffs Bach party for over a month now. I got a guest list from her and added everyone to a group on Facebook. There was no real interaction. No one responded when we (me and one other BM) put out our suggestions for activities except for another Bridesmaid or Best Man who said she would be working until about 8pm the night of the party. That’s fine.
So two weeks ago we sent out a message to everyone. The plan is
‘Girls afternoon’ at my house. Face masks, painting nails, playing with makeup and hair, couple drinks, snacky food, and decorating ‘pimp cups’ Aka blinging out mason jars.
Pole dancing class at a local studio in the early evening.
Then to the bar(club) to dance and party the rest of the night away.
I mentioned looking into group transport to get us all to and from the bar, and said that everyone was welcome to crash at my house for the night, there will be Advil, pancakes and coffee for all in the morning.
I broke it up that way so that people who had other obligations or time/financial constraints could attend 1, 2, or all 3 sections of the party.
I also mentioned that the Bride is going to be completely in the dark until the day of, and to contact me or bridesmaid B with questions, comments or concerns.
The 4th bridesmaid announces then that she has a wedding to attend that day. Ok fine.
Well now suddenly I have people bailing on the pole dancing party, we’ve dropped from 10/13 to 7/13 (which ups the price for everyone else), and girls are texting the bride asking if it’s ok that they aren’t coming to the whole thing because they are uncomfortable with parts of the day. I have been out to the bar with all of these ladies on more than one occasion, and I’m really confused as to what they are uncomfortable with?
But the part that I am BEYOND FRUSTRATED about is that they are texting the bride about this! NOT SUPPOSED TO BE HER PROBLEM!!!!!
I was SO EXCITED for her party and now I’m stressed and pissed off at these girls who suddenly decided that less than a week before was a good time to bail. You couldn’t tell us you weren’t comfortable with this WHEN WE SUGGESTED IT A MONTH AGO!? I only put down the deposit last week. Lots of time to cancel. Me and the one other bridesmaid who are attending have agreed to pay a little extra so the other girls attending don’t have to suffer as much for the ones who bailed.
I’m so worried now that no one will show up to my house or the dancing and it will kill the fun of the whole day.