- 12 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
My aunt came over earlier to drop off stuff to my mom, wasn’t here at the time, and she told me she’d gotten the invite to my engagement party. Let me start by saying that she’s my mom’s half-sister, and they’re not close. She’s never liked me or my siblings very much, and she always tries to make a competition between us and her children. I know she’s jealous because her daughter is 3 years older than me and has never had a serious relationship and I’m getting married young and blah blah. I shouldn’t let what she said embarrass me but I can’t help it.
She’s like “I looked at your registry, you guys are a little out of control.” I asked her what she meant, and she goes ‘All your china is really nice, I like all your Bed Bath and Beyond stuff, but your Williams Sonoma registry is a joke. It’s like two little kids pretending to be grown-up, and this is their idea of what an adult kitchen needs.”
She brought up the fact that my fiance wants a margarita machine and glasses, and she goes “That’s so immature, what are you going to do with a margarita machine when you have kids someday?” And I got pissed off and said, “What’s the difference between a margarita machine and the 16 bottle wine refrigerator you and my uncle have? How does THAT effect your ability to properly parent?” She brushed that off by saying, “That’s different, a margarita machine is a frat boy’s idea of a present” and then she was like “Forget about that nonsense, you registered for a madeleine pan? A MADELEINE PAN? Whose idea was that?” She’s laughing IN MY FACE, and I go, “It was my idea. I don’t get why that’s so hysterical to you.” And she went off about how that’s a “ridiculous waste of time” and that “most brides register for multi-purpose cake and muffin pans and the madeliene pan will collect dust and be a huge waste of money.” I started to finally tear into her and told her to mind her own business, to stop judging me and my fiance, etc, then my mom came home, heard us yelling, and broke it up.
My aunt called here a little while ago, and apologized to me for her “tone” and then turned around and said, “I’m just trying to warn you. There are people who are offended by what’s on your registry right now, but they’re not saying anything to your face about it. I thought you needed to know, so you can change it as necessary.”
So I’m sitting here, feeling about two feet tall. I don’t really know what I’m doing typing all this out; I just had to vent. I don’t know if she’s right? If I should edit my registry? Or if I should say screw her and anyone else who’s unhappy and keep it the way it is. We’re not CRAZY; he just loves Mexican food and wants to have a lot of parties for our friends after we get married. I always buy myself madeleine cakes from Starbucks as a treat every week, and I thought it would be fun to make my own. This is all so stupid, really. They’re just THINGS.
Has anyone in your life given you registry grief? How’d you handle it? Or has anyone else in your family made a big drama out of something related to your wedding?