(Closed) I am SO embarrassed! :(

posted 12 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 62
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If she or anyone else doesn’t like certian items on your registry they don’t have to buy it for you. They can just give cash if that works for them.

Post # 63
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Helper bee

WOW! Sounds like your aunt is the one who needs to do some growing up!

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We registered for a KitchenAid Mixer and guess what was the first item bought (I love my non-insane grandma by the way). The other expensive item is stainless steel pots/pans set, but we also registered for the seperate pieces, so techinically it is broken up if people don’t want to buy the whole set.

For what it is worth, my Fiance fell in love with the Margarita Maker. I had to say no though because we have a really tiny kitchen and I just have no way to store it. I told him when we get a bigger house I will buy him the margarita maker as a gift. Oh and the madeline pan is also bought. Your aunt is just a bitter person and is trying to make you feel bad. Tell her you are sorry she is unhappy in her life and has to bring you down, but you are excited how much variety you have on your list.

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That is out of control on her part! You should register for wahtever YOU want, and if people don’t want to buy it for you, they don’t have to!

As far as her saying that others are saying things  about your registry…well, who? Because I think she just said that o make herself look like she isn’t the only ass. My guess is that NOBODY said anything to her about your registry. And, if they did, well…I guess they need to get a life if all they have to talk about is your registry.

And I’ll be over when you take out the marg. machine! WOOHOO!

 

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Just a side note to your aunt: the Margarita Machine is also a snow-cone Machine for kiddos one day too!

 

Unfortunately people are going to scrutinize your registry.  Anyone’s for that matter.  My mom has about 15 women that she plays buncos with and my mom has mentioned to me that they talk about what is on registries and why do they need this or that.  And what are they thinking registering for expensive items.  So get use to it.  I’m not saying it is right of them but I think that it is just something a lot of people do.  I got snide comments from my aunt too.  I think that for her it is out of pure jealousy.  And what I find funny is that her daughter who had to have a rush wedding went out and registered for crazy stuff.  So I felt like saying what’s good for one goose is good for the other.  But I held my tongue.

I would just avoid your aunt from now until the wedding day. Oh and DON’T tell anyone your wedding plans especially her!  And tell your mom to not talk about plans either.  Because that will be next on her list of rants.  I.E. Why do you need a chocolate fountain or $100 pair of shoes.  

Post # 67
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think as long as you have enough items in a range of prices you’re fine. Like there should be some $10 stuff, some $20 stuff, some $50 stuff, some $100+ stuff. I don’t think you ever need to worry about a registry being too big or too weird or too whatever as long as you have the price ranges covered. 

Post # 68
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree that people just gossip about registries.  My grandmother made some comments to my mom about how she just couldn’t believe we registered for such an expensive comforter and how nobody would buy that.  My mom took GREAT pleasure in telling her that someone had already given it to us.  Haha.  But seriously, don’t listen to your aunt.  What the hell does she know about whether you need a margarita machine?

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I haven’t read all the responses so sorry if I duplicate a reply.  But I think for the holidays you should give your aunt her own Madeleine pan and margarita ingrediants along with a bunch of cakes that you made from your own pan and then laugh in her face.

Post # 70
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

wow, i’m glad to know you aren’t allowed to drink margaritas after you become a parent. this revelation has potentially saved my life. Wink

Post # 71
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Your aunt sounds like a stuck up prude! I cannot imagine someone talking to me like that. You handled yourself well! And like everyone else has said…your registry is for what YOU and your fiance want. The guests are able to decide what to pick off of it. Clearly, your aunt will not be getting you the margarita machine (great idea) or the madeleine pan, but I’m sure someone else will! Too often, people forget who the wedding is actually about…

Post # 72
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry you had to go through this but it is interesting to find someone else who’s had registry drama! I’ve received SEVERAL snide comments about my registry. FI’s family friend actually emailed me to let me know that the number of glasses I registered for was “odd”. She wanted to make sure all our numbers were correct. She was right actually, the little registry gun we used had problems and a few of the numbers were out of wack. Then she emailed again to ask if we actually registered for a certain set because they didn’t seem “our style.” Huh??? She doesn’t know me very well and I think that was her way of letting us know that she thought what we registered for was “ugly.” My mom told me that my great aunt refused to buy me a bridal shower gift off of our registry because she didn’t like anything we had registered for. One of my “friends” (read: on again off again friendship) told me she bought off my registry because she looked at it and it was “terrible.” Now, I didn’t register for anything crazy. The patterns weren’t even bright or super modern or any other style that could be considered “out there.” I was shocked to learn that registry bashing is actually sort of common. It’s just so tacky! And, guess what? The two who bought off the registry for my bridal shower got me the same thing! Now I have two sets of salad bowls and tongs. That’s what a registry is for!

In the end, it’s your registry and your life. Satisfy yourself.

 

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Your aunt is out of control. Personally I wouldnt even invite her but thats just me. As far as your registry I really hope you dont change it! You should register for what you want. Def have a variety of pricing. I dont understand people saying anything about how much something cost. We usually spend at least $100 on a gift. & if theres a really cool gift we want to give thats really expensive we’ll go in on it with a friend or sibling. She sounds like a jealous witch, dont pay her any mind!

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

soo out of line.  It’s your registry and your life so have plenty of margarita parties and don’t invite her!!!

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Wow, i would have told her if she didn’t like your registry to not buy you anything and keep her ass home from the wedding. I don’t have tolerance for relatives like that and WILL NOT take any crap from them….whether they are blood or married into the family of half/step relatives. Life’s to short to bitch about gift registry….tell her to get a life.

Post # 76
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House

WTF?! (Pardon my abbreviated French). This woman is NOT nice and waaay out of line. I registered for some stuff I thought was a stretch, but people are bought them! Like a 2 gallon drink dispenser for picnics I will someday have when I have a house with any outdoor space. Right now I’ll have to store it at the in-law’s. The madeleine pan is fine!! People will just think you already have regular pans and cupcake pans. She sounds like a witch. You’re fine and don’t take things off your registry. 

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