- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I’ve been engaged and planning my wedding since last March (well, the planning didn’t really start until last July.) My wedding is this coming July 2013.
This past fall, my older sister got engage, and she is planning on having her wedding in September.
We are bridesmaids in each other’s weddings, and my wedding is a lot less formal than hers. I asked all of my bridesmaids to choose their dresses, but they had to be green, knee-length, and chiffon. They were aware of this last summer, before her engagement. This past winter, she chose traditional bridesmaid dresses for her wedding, and they are traditionally pricey. The downpayment of $80 is due this weekend.
Every single one of my other bridesmaids have purchased their dressees, except her. When I was speaking to my mom tonight, she said my sister had decided that she didn’t want to choose a dress and that I had to. So I found one for $65 and sent it to her.
I just got a text from my mom saying she “can’t afford” the dress and she is going to have my mom just make her dress (my mom is a seamstress.) That’s fine, but I’m frustrated that she has been aware of purchasing a dress for almost a year, and she has been really negative and pessemistic about all of it from the beginning. I get it that my wedding isn’t that big of a deal to her, and hers is a bigger deal to her. But I’m expected to shell out $80 this weekend for her bridesmaids dress, and she has been refusing to look at dresses for my wedding.
I’m not worried that she won’t have a dress, I’m just frustrated that she has been so stubborn and negative about everything since I got engaged. I think it would have been different if she had been engaged longer and planning her wedding for longer, so her money had all been going towards that. But she hadn’t, and her stubborness is upsetting me.
I think my rant is over now.