Post # 1
SO major rant… I am absolutely FURIOUS today. I’m the older sister and very very very protective.
Awhile ago, one of my younger sisters told a group of bullies to stop picking on another girl that was having a really hard time in life. The bullies (two girls!) were harassing the victim and saying she had eating disorders, was promiscious, etc. My sister stood up for the girl and asked the two bullies to stop. She used to be friends with the bullies, but after this, she ended both friendships because she could not be a party to people who would hurt other people in this manner. Might I mention this is in COLLEGE?
Yesterday, my sister was at school when both of the girls confronted her in a bathroom and said a few choice things that made my sister apparently come home in tears.. They then tagged a gazillion of her friends and her in a post that called her a w#### and a few other awful things. Causing my sister to call me in absolute hysterics.
Sorry to rant here bees.. I’m so upset I can barely see straight. My little sister is the kindest most charismatic and caring person out there. People are so drawn to her. I have always been secretly jealous of how everyone immediately cares about her because of her personality. She has never wished a bad thing upon anyone. Not even these bullies. They have been harassing her half because she wouldn’t partake in their evil harassment of a younger girl, and half because she is absolutely gorgggeeeous (so jealous of that too! ha) and she can eat anything she wants and not gain a single pound. I am just so upset for my sister! She is so kind that she didn’t say a single thing back to them. She just tried to leave.
What does one do in this situation? Get a restraining order? Email the parents and hope they can control their COLLEGE aged daughter?? I can’t really tell my little sister to “ignore them” because they stopped her in a BATHROOM and harassed her. And they are both muchhhh bigger than her so her personal safety is in danger.
Post # 3
@happilyeveraftergirl: she should contact the police. That’s harassment
Post # 4
+1 I’d call the campus police
Post # 5
She doesn’t have physical proof. I think she may have some virtual proof from when they tagged her in that status, but they might have deleted it.
Post # 6
@happilyeveraftergirl: Is there some sort of security on campus? She could speak to them.
For facebook, a choice reply might work. I’m pretty sure she can report them to facebook too.
ETA: Re lack of evidence, I read a newspaper article the other day where an abuser was caught out because he was (audio) recorded talking to a girl. So if it happens again she could hide in the cubicle and set her phone to record what’s said. I know that sounds a bit over the top but it’s a thought.
Post # 7
Hey that’s pretty genius in my mind! I wish she would have set her phone on record and than walked out when they started to attack her.. That would have solved all of these problems.
Post # 8
Even without evidence, she should still talk to someone on her campus (maybe someone in the dean of students office?). Most colleges require students to adhere to a certain code of conduct, and clearly these bullies have not. OP – your sister and the girl who was bullied first should go and report the bullies. There may not be any “official” action, but I suspect that the university will talk to the bullies and put them on their radar.
Post # 9
If your sister is so kind then no one on Facebook is going to pay any mind to that post at all. I’d take a screenshot of it but then leave it alone.
I would get her one of those personal alarm things that lets off a loud noise when she presses the button (possibly that are apps that do this?) – just in case they corner her again so that she has an out. I would also encourage her to walk around with at least one other friend at least for a while, that way there is another witness.
Apart from that, I don’t think there is much more to be done. She did a very brave thing and now just has to ride out this awfulness.
Post # 10
I don’t think she really needs proof, if she feels threatened she can file for a temporary restraining order. I’ve done it before and it literally only required me to ill out some papers and have someone serve him with papers. A court date would be set for later and we could gather evidence in that time, like bringin a witness such as the other girl they pick on
Post # 11
Ooh very good idea.. at least it could be on record. And the other girl better be willingly to stand up with my sister.. Not to sound callous, but my sister stood up for her and is being hurt for it.. At the very least she should help her.
I did get her pepperspray! But the noise thing is much better… Maybe something that makes them temporarily deaf.. 😛 Just kidding! Nobody on Facebook believed it or cared, but she’s so fragile that it made her cry.. And that is enough for me.
I’ll mention that.. I know where we live that you just have to fill out the temp order and then it is valid until the court date.. Which could be quite a bit away so that could be great.
Post # 12
If she feels that her safety is in danger, she can request that campus police escort her to her car and whatnot. Reporting safety concerns does not require any evidence at all, and it would make the campus police (possibly) be more aware of those girls.
Post # 13
Her college must have an anti-bullying policy. She needs to follow it and report these bullies.
Post # 14
@happilyeveraftergirl: she should contact the counselling office at the university. they can face penalties up to suspension etc from college, if it’s anything like the one i go to.
Post # 15
Yeah I would be pressing charges if possible or filing a police report and involving the college.
Post # 16
Get a restraining order and call the police. Those girls are in COLLEGE, for crying out loud! They’re adults and should know that threatening another person and insulting them in a public place has consequences. No mercy.