Post # 1
I am living about 8 hours from where I call home, which is Oklahoma and I got the news yesterday that a very dear friend and former co-worker had passed away. She was 70 yrs old and truly had a wonderful life. She was an amazing florist and such a one of a kind. I learned so much from her. She was one of my most favorite people in my life. Well because of all this wedding planning, work and it being such a short notice I wasnt able to go to her funeral today. I am still so devastated by this and feel horrible for not being there. Her husband and everyone says they completely understand and so would Ruthie but I cant seem to make it ok in my head. My Fiance doesnt really understand so I feel like I have no one really to talk to about it. I was getting a count from my guest list to order my STD’s and seen her name and I honestly cant make myself remove her from the list. I am a mess right now and just kind of wanted to vent
Post # 3
Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I agree with the advice you’ve gotten–she would understand! My thoughts are with you and again, so sorry to hear this. (((hugs)))
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Oh no, I’m so sorry. You might not have been able to make it to her funeral, but I am sure you’ll find other ways to remember her.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry. I am going through something really similar right now (a man I’ve taken care of at the nursing home I’ve worked at for the past four years is on downward spiral) and I know he won’t make it to R & my wedding. He has been a big part of our lives, and somehow milestones like weddings make it harder, and guilt from not being there to say goodbye is tough. But you were there with her when it counted, remember that. *Hugs*
Post # 6
Shannon, I am so sorry to hear that youlost your friend. Please don’t feel guilty about the funeral. You were a friend to her during her life and that is what truly counts. Don’t worry about taking her off of your list just yet. Take the time you need to cope with the situation. My thoughts are with you.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry for your loss. Ruthie knows how you felt about her; funerals are really for the living, afterall. Is there anything you can do where you are at in honor of her? ie: drink her favorite beverage, do her favorite thing (or what you guys liked to do together). When a dear co-worker of mine passed away, something that brought me solace was to do those types of things…. and always say a little toast to her memory.
Post # 8
Im very sorry to hear about your loss. My DH’s uncle passed away a few months before our wedding and I never did remove him from our list. Couldnt do it. I hope you dont continue to be upset with yourself about not being able to make the funeral.
Post # 9
I too am sorry for your loss. While it won’t make the sadness go away any sooner, I agree that you should find something you can do on your own to honor her and her life. It might not come to you today, but I’m sure there is something that will help you find peace and maybe some closure when the time is right.
Post # 10
Thank you bees so so much! It really helps!! I am slowly becoming a little ok with missing her services because at least I have the better memories of her, rather than the sad images of her at her services. Yet I still wish I could have been there for everyone, maybe so I could actually grieve her loss. I truly am very thankful for your support. Thanks ladies, great advice too!
Post # 11
…also – if you haven’t already, sending a sympathy card to her husband would be a nice gesture… and may be a bit therapeutic in the grieving process.
Post # 12
its wonderful that you had found such a kind mentor in your life – i hope her example to you helps guides you for your future
Post # 13
I’m sorry for your loss 🙁 I’m sure she appreciated the friendship you gave her in her life & would totally understand you not being able to be there right now. I hope you find comfort in the thought of her & the memories you shared together!