Post # 1
Sometimes I get these SUPER antsy feelings about my other half proposing that I Google and read posts to make me feel better. Oh, lord, let me tell you, I found a post of Weddingbee that just made me smile reading through all your guys’ posts.
My man told me he wants to propose by the end of the year. END OF THE YEAR?! OH MY GOD DON’T TELL ME SUCH THINGS! So now I’m like, “Proposal on my birthday?! Thanksgiving?! Christmas!?!!?!” Hahaha! A bunch of my friends are recently engaged/married and it’s driving me bonkers! I’m so tired of wondering when it’s coming, I’m so dang anxious! My lover’s friends and parents even comment about our engagement!
GIRLIES, give me some good stuff to read. Rant, rave, and tell me your impatient moments of being a lady-in-waiting. Let it all out!
Post # 3
My guy had the ring (and I knew about it) for a full YEAR before he proposed!!!! HOLY COW!! He got the ring one week before valentines day last year so I had all sorts of holidays, birthdays, anniversaries…ugh. Just be patient It will all work out 🙂 Looking back now, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 4
@katiebeary: I know how you feel. Fiance did a lot of talk about “wanting to have a more stable job by my birthday” and “wanting to be more financially stable by my birthday” that I had started putting 2 and 2 together and figured he’d be proposing around my birthday. We had talked about getting married for at least a year when he started this talk. Well, he planned a surprise trip the day before my birthday(My birthday was on Easter so we celebrated the day before), and yes, he proposed 🙂
Post # 5
My SO promised before christmas eve and it’s an excruciating wait…sometimes I just want to scream into his very soul “MARRY ME ALREADY!!!!!” I love him dearly though…he is just trying to make it as special as possible.
Post # 6
Yep know how you feel. SO has had the ring a full month already and it completely drives me nuts somedays. I’m in the same boat you are, I know it will be before the end of the year but I don’t know when. I’ve already suspected a few different dates but who knows SO amazes me all the time so it will probably be when I least expect it. Hang in there.
Post # 7
@happy2bee: I’m in a similar position, I think they get a kick out of being vauge and tormenting us!!
Post # 8
Me too!! Ring arrived yesterday – we agreed three months from the time we got the ring so looks like it could happen anytime from October 3rd (he is talking to my Dad on the 2nd) to December 7th…can’t wait! I think so long as I have the ring to show all our relatives over the holidays, I’ll feel ok about it all.
At the end of the day, so long as we’re married before the end of next year, I’ll be happy!
Post # 9
Ugh, I know how you feel! Mine told me by the end of the year too (and this was on New Years!) His mother already refers to me to her friends as her “future daughter-in-law” and everything! I think I’m getting closer because I know soon he’ll have his credit card paid off which is what he wanted to do before buying the ring. I’ve told him I don’t need a ring and that he could ask me right now and I’d say yes but he didn’t go for that one lol. For now, he told me to grow my nails out before he proposed (I’m a compulsive biter) which I’m pretty sure is his way of saying it’s coming soon, this will keep you occupied in the meantime haha. Being patient is so hard! Glad I’m not the only one.
Post # 10
I haven’t been waiting as long as some of the bees here, SO and I only started dating 1 year and 5 months ago. BUT I knew like 2 weeks in that he was the man I wanted to marry, so technically I have been waiting over a year now!
Right around our one-year mark, we had The Talk about marriage. We know it’s definitely in our future. I want to marry him. He wants to marry me. We are committed to this relationship for the long haul. We want to have a child before I turn 30 (a little over 4 years from now), and we want to be married for at least a year before we get pregnant, so the wedding has to happen in two years, maximum.
So now I keep wondering, when?! It gets to where I just want to yell, “What is the holdup?!” We already have a date in mind, but with no official proposal, it just doesn’t feel real to me yet. I get very impatient sometimes! But I love him and he is so worth waiting for. I just have to keep reminding myself of that whenever I get frustrated and tired of waiting! 🙂
Post # 11
@katiebeary: sounds iike i may be in a similar predicament to you! my guy has been hinting at a big surprise for me coming sometime at the end of this year or beginning of next year, even saying, “maybe around your birthday would be good…” so that’ s like november, december, or january! all the hints point to a proposal, but i really can’t be sure. (sparkly, something to get really really excited about, a gift where the best part isn’t even tangible, and he asked about my ring size this summer…) i’m fairly certain that he hasn’t been able to get a ring yet, so i really have no idea! maybe he’ll take my suggestion and just use a ring pop. XD
the worst part is that i’m crazy impatient and terrible at trying not to bring it up. i’ll keep my fingers crossed for both of us; maybe we’ll both have some great news by christmas time! 🙂
Post # 12
he said by december 31st!
so yeah, i kinda keep thinking my birthday. he says he wants to do it with everyone around but we live two hours away so thats really the only time.
i’m pretty sure he has the ring already too. i always check his pockets before washing his pants because he has a bad habit of leaving money and credit cards in them. i reached for a pair off the floor, he snatched it out of my hand, took a receipt out and handed them back to me. sooth move exlax. hahaha.
Post # 13
Try being with someone for well over half a decade. MY SO and I have been together for six and a half years. We have had our ups and downs like most couples and it seemed the timing hasn’t been right for us.
This year things seem to have settled down for us. Yes Katieberry I know about the sense of annoyance when seeing most of my friends and fam being engaged or married. While I still have a bare ring finger.
Last week I had weddings on my mind and I know I mentioned it a few times (perhaps more then a few) which prompted my SO to ask “Why are you talking about weddings. Are you afraid if I don’t ask you or we don’t that I’m going to run away?”
I just gave a “maybe” shrug. Left it at that.
Last night SO said to me “Do you mind if you don’t get a birthday present in 2012?” My ears pricked up when he said it. I mumbled I don’t mind as long as you take me out to our favourite resturant.
Before that he said “Things have been so great this year, you deserve a reward.”
The only thing I can think of is perhaps there will be a sparkly ring for Christmas. Now I’m just going to sit back and wait 🙂
Post # 14
UGH! I’m going insane too.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years. We’ve been dating longer than every married couple I know that’s near our age, and we’re not even engaged yet.
In April this year we decided that we’d get married in August 2012. I always told him that I wanted to be engaged a year or longer. He said “okay, it’ll be by the end of the summer then.. start planning.” So I went full out on planning. We also decided that we wanted fall engagement photos. So I have an session scheduled with a photographer for October 22. (No deposit yet.. she’s holding the date though, I hope.)
Welp, now it’s mid September… still no ring. I know he’s got the money for the ring. I know he opened a charge card for it (to finance a bit of it… just to build credit) I think he might have the ring. His friends are even poking fun at him that it hasn’t happened yet.
I decided to tell him that since we’re not engaged yet and it’s past Aug. that it’s not going to be Aug. 2012.
He said fine. So I don’t know when the wedding would be now.
…and all he keeps saying about the proposal is that it’s “coming soon.” If it’s not in the next few weeks I don’t know what I’m going to do… I really wanted fall engagement photos. I need to put a deposit down.
Honestly I’m getting sick of waiting and thinking it might be it and it not being it.
There is nothing special coming up. (No important dates, no important activities that we’re planning.)
I’m near the end of my rope.
Post # 15
We can bounce off the walls together?
ep telling myself that when it happens it will be special for us, and that it’s not about the proposal, or the ring, or the wedding, but the fact that he chose me, and I chose him… and the happily ever after will come eventually.
But man does the waiting suck! I have this theory that most guys want to keep it a secret and have it be a total surprise, but let little details out of the bacg because they’re excited too. I’m pretty sure that’s what my boyfriend did, and it sounds like yours too.
Good luck and keep us posted!!!
Post # 16
@kimbean – can I join in on that? My boyfriend and I talked this spring and decided we’d make things official by the end of the summer…..And I’m still waiting. He wants to make sure his situation is perfect before being responsible for me too (yay for wanting to be able to support a family, but seriously, when is anyone’s life perfect???). After revisiting the topic over the weekend, he said he realizes that there really isn’t a “perfect time” and that he’s ready…Which I think is the perfect way to drive a maturally impatient person completely crazy.