(Closed) I am so mad I am SHAKING!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why can’t you just clarify with them? Seems simple enough. Also, if 3 more people were ok, why was it not ok for your mom’s brother to come?

Post # 4
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree.  I would just clarify that it is a adult only ceremony.

Post # 5
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

“we’re so thrilled you’re all so excited, unfortunately we only are able to extend the invitation to so and so, as indicated on the invitation. If this means you are not able to make it, we understand and you will be missed”

Post # 6
696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would not let this slide. Message her again and clarify exactly who is invited and why you are not inviting everyone.

Post # 7
42 posts

Message her back, especially about the kids, and tell her you didn’t mean the kids could come.  Tell her that you’re sorry about the misunderstanding but you are only having a small intimate wedding and there won’t be any other kids there.  If they don’t understand then it’s their problem, not yours.  🙂

Post # 10
2893 posts
Sugar bee

I would be angry too. But honestly it seems like it could be a really easy fix. Call it a miscommunication and extend the invite to select people and inform her that it’s a no-kids event.

Post # 12
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I also agree that you should just politely clarify that your wedding is intended to be small, that you managed to squeeze the extra couple of guests in as per your conversation with them, but unfortunately you have already reached a maximum based on your venue and plans (that’s if the previous excellent suggestion by another Bee prompts them to ask why etc)

Post # 14
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@SweetartMD:  i would be pissed right off.  put your foot down and tell them no.  of course in a polite way.  let them know that you said ok to the 3 of them (even though they weren’t initially invited) but not to 10. 

that is just simply rude, rude, rude.

i hate hate, hate hearing stories like this.  it’s all too common.

i am going to start a company called the “rsvp defenders” or better still,  “U weren’t invited” and when brides get crazy responses like this, i will contact the evil doers and do all of the dirty work in the most diplomatic way of course.

Post # 16
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

No maam! 10 extra people are NOT coming! LOL

You need to say something and immediately. Dont just let this happen. Depending on how much you are paying per person you could be forking over a lot of money. Tell them the deal honey..this is YOUR day! 

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