(Closed) I am so mad – I could scream!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I personally dont think it is HIS job to do whatever you are doing.. perhaps take your own advice and go get the right tools before you begin..

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

I would try going to a place like Home Depot/Lowe’s over the Dollar Store for a job like this.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Definitely go to a home improvement store and get yourself the right tools! It makes the job SO much easier and less stressful!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I understand your frustration because it seems like a “guys” job to be fixing something like this in the bathroom, however, it sounds like you volunteered to do the job, so why are you upset at him for you not having the right tools?  I’d agree with PP, go to a hardware store and ask an employee for their recommendations.  Usually they have quite a bit of know-how on little projects like these or might have a different solution altogether.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I missed something…how did this become your SO’s fault? You didn’t have the right tools and bought extremely cheap tools that did not hold up so I understand that you’re frustrated, but taking that out on your SO doesn’t sound like the answer…

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There’s a reason Dollar Store tools cost $1. Get yourslef a proper toolbox and some decent tools. It’s waaaaaaaaaaaaaay less frustrating.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wish I could send you some of DH’s tools to help with this job. I’m not kidding you, between the two of us, we probably have 3 tools to do any job in the house. We have a storage room, and a shed absoulutely packed full of tools!

 

You can’t do a job right with the wrong tools (which includes the dollar store variety).

 

Sorry you are feeling frustrated, but after you’ve done the job right with the proper tools, you can feel a sense of pride.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Can I just say that I love when you get pissed? Seeing your title next to your avatar gives me the giggles.

Back to your topic…I am your SO. I totally start jobs and do it half assed until Darling Husband finally takes over and does it properly. I think I do this just to ‘inspire’ him. 😉

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

“Why isn’t SO doing this? He screws up everything that’s why! … literally screws up whatever he is doing!!!!!”

This doesn’t sound like a recipe for a happy marriage.

Believe me, I get the frustration of home improvement projects. I was working on some cabinets this weekend and ordered a drawer box just slightly too large. There was cursing. I had to go lay on the couch because I was getting too worked up. It seems like when you have tools in your hand, it’s so much easier to want to throw something!! Haha

But seriously, your attitude towards your fiance (future fiance? Can’t tell) is really unhealthy and is going to lead to a lifetime of you feeling like you’re the only one that can do things right and you have to do it all, and him feeling inadequate. I would suggest working on that in pre-marital counseling, if it is truly how you feel and not just hyperbole.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Why doesn’t your employer provide the tools necessary to do the job they require?

Unless, they think you guys already have the proper tools because its part of your field, and your husband just didn’t invest in anything?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

i understand ur frustration in that u spend ur hard earned money on something and its such a peice of shit that it isnt worth two pennies. everything is made like crap nowadays and not because its not made in america either cuz even the american made stuff is crap too, it was just more expensive! shirts unravel, r made out of see through material, not because its in style but because its cheaper for manufacturers (but priced still the same or more for consumers) and then they try to tell us its the new style to try to get us to buy it, jeans rip easily, shoes come right apart, no matter what it is, its crap! grr!!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Some people are just not mechanically inclined, and having a fella around the house that is the definition of Mr. Fix It, trust me, I count my lucky stars, because what you just described would have me cutting all if his pants off at that knee!  If he’s not good at that kind of stuff, the genteel thing to do would be to hire a contractor to do it for him, since you don’t want to do it either and it’s not going well…for the sake of everyone’s happiness, I would happily fork over the $

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Haha, as soon as I started reading this post, I thought “why isn’t the man doing this? This is man stuff FOR SURE!” Tongue Out  Darling Husband and I have decided that the best division of labor in our relationship is to basically have “man tasks” and “woman tasks”. And whenever one of us tries to deviate from this, it ends poorly and reminds us why we came up with that plan in the first place. Example: Darling Husband cooking. No. Just, no.

It is unfortunate that your SO isn’t able to help you with this! Sounds like a task that you should maybe attack together. Maybe, watching you struggle, he will feel “inspired” (as WillyNilly put it) to take over!

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