(Closed) I am so mad…hate waiting…another friend engaged

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Awwww, I’m sorry! We are all pretty much in the same boat over here in the waiting section! You are in very good company now lol

Feel free to vent whenever you need it, I know it helps a lot. All the ladies here are super supportive and make you feel much better!

 

Post # 4
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474 posts
Helper bee

hugs Becky.. I had a mad day the other day too.. Venting on here and a good old fashioned temper tantrum (in private) helped me out a little. I get pangs of jealously every time people get engaged who have been dating a shorter amount of time than us, but I think about how great it will be when we finally do!

Post # 5
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just posted about this! I’m sorry your frustrated…but why exactly do you need to get married? Why are you angry that you haven’t had the big “party” yet? If your in love, and your commited whole-heartedly to this man, why should it matter if your married or not? Why should it matter that the government knows your filing your taxes together? What is marriage, really, other than formally being with the one you love? It’s tax benifits, it’s easier bank transactions and bill paying, it’s cheaper insurance rates, lower application fees for renting a home, it’s health insurance benifits, etc. Do you really need those so badly that your getting mad at your partner? So many relationships are ruined because of that!

If you love this guy, wait it out! Good things come to those who wait! Good luck!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

(((HUGS))) Vent away, girl! I think a lot of us can relate to how you feel. It’s hard not to feel a little jealous when your friends have something that you want. I think it’s great there are places (like this place!) where we can come and whine to people who understand.
 
Your day will come and, until then, at least you can get it out without having to talk to your sweetie about it.

Post # 7
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594 posts
Busy bee

Aww Im sorry. I dont really know how you feel since I am the first of my friends (only by a week) to get engaged. But just think, you will have that much more time to spend together without the stress of a wedding. I am sure thats not much help now, but don’t worry. It will come.

Post # 8
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

((HUGS)) Vent away… we’ve all done it.  I come here instead of talking to Boyfriend or Best Friend, and it works wonders.  I have a feeling I will be in the same boat with you soon… 

Post # 9
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4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

*hugs* GIRL! We totally get it. Two of my best friends have gotten engaged in the last month and it’s been hard. Just keep it together, focus on your relationship in the here and now and it’ll all work out.

Post # 10
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10216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

hmmmm I didn’t read your post as a need to be married.  no one needs to be married. i think you want to be married to the person whom you have shared your life with for the last 6.5 years.  it’s really hard to watch your friends move on to the next level in their relationship when you are waiting for your own next level. does your boyfriend want to be married?  maybe when you aren’t so emotional you can defintiely sit down and have a talk with him to make sure you both want the same things in your relationship.  ((HUGS))

Post # 11
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1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

guuurrlllll! we are all here!!! or there? and that’s what we are here for. i know it’s easier said than done to to be happy with what you have, and i know how awful it feels. but you have us and keep the faith ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

::hugs:: let it all out here. i know how frustrating it can be seeing everyone else move foward while you’re seemingly standing still. hang in there though! we’ll help you through ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I felt the same way you did. My Fh and I were together for almost 5 yrs before we got engaged. Even bought a house tOGETHER with no ring! all my friends are either married or engaged and I am the last one to go and the longest relationship too. I feel your pain. When the timing is right, he will pop the question and when he does, your head is going to go in a whirlwind of excitment. Just relax, it will happen.

Venting is always a must. Just not to him. That is what weddingbee is for!

Post # 14
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2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

I know that feeling. I was moh for a friend and I was jealous that she was getting married first. now she is my moh and she is sad hers is over and I still get to plan.

Cheer up- it will happen!

Post # 16
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

i hear you! my boyfriend and i have been together 5.5 years today and i’m so sick of waiting! i’m also sick of hearing via facebook that almost every person i know is engaged or getting married and they’ve only been with their fiance/husband for 1-3 years. my boyfriend is the least decisive person i know and i’m not quite sure what exactly he’s waiting for since he’s told me since august that he knows he wants to marry me! i had a huge punch in the gut when my best friend from college got engaged last month out of the blue after only dating her boyfriend for 2 years.

i’m totally here for you to gripe with!

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