Post # 1
I am just mad today. I found out another one of my friends is getting engaged. There was 4 of us that were really good friends. Two of them are already engaged and one is looking for rings as we speak. That only leaves ME. The amounts of how long each couple has been dating COMBINED (ie. 2.5 years, 1 year, 2.5 years=6 years) is less than the amount I have been dating my boyfriend for (6.5 years). I am going crazy. I know he has done nothing wrong but I am just freaken angry today. 4 other friends have become engaged in the last 2 months and it is just hard. I am trying not to speak about anything ring related becuase my Boyfriend or Best Friend gets mad and says its annoying. So I decide to just vent here. Thanks for listening 🙂
Post # 3
Awwww, I’m sorry! We are all pretty much in the same boat over here in the waiting section! You are in very good company now lol
Feel free to vent whenever you need it, I know it helps a lot. All the ladies here are super supportive and make you feel much better!
Post # 4
hugs Becky.. I had a mad day the other day too.. Venting on here and a good old fashioned temper tantrum (in private) helped me out a little. I get pangs of jealously every time people get engaged who have been dating a shorter amount of time than us, but I think about how great it will be when we finally do!
Post # 5
I just posted about this! I’m sorry your frustrated…but why exactly do you need to get married? Why are you angry that you haven’t had the big “party” yet? If your in love, and your commited whole-heartedly to this man, why should it matter if your married or not? Why should it matter that the government knows your filing your taxes together? What is marriage, really, other than formally being with the one you love? It’s tax benifits, it’s easier bank transactions and bill paying, it’s cheaper insurance rates, lower application fees for renting a home, it’s health insurance benifits, etc. Do you really need those so badly that your getting mad at your partner? So many relationships are ruined because of that!
If you love this guy, wait it out! Good things come to those who wait! Good luck!
Post # 6
(((HUGS))) Vent away, girl! I think a lot of us can relate to how you feel. It’s hard not to feel a little jealous when your friends have something that you want. I think it’s great there are places (like this place!) where we can come and whine to people who understand.
Your day will come and, until then, at least you can get it out without having to talk to your sweetie about it.
Post # 7
Aww Im sorry. I dont really know how you feel since I am the first of my friends (only by a week) to get engaged. But just think, you will have that much more time to spend together without the stress of a wedding. I am sure thats not much help now, but don’t worry. It will come.
Post # 8
((HUGS)) Vent away… we’ve all done it. I come here instead of talking to Boyfriend or Best Friend, and it works wonders. I have a feeling I will be in the same boat with you soon…
Post # 9
*hugs* GIRL! We totally get it. Two of my best friends have gotten engaged in the last month and it’s been hard. Just keep it together, focus on your relationship in the here and now and it’ll all work out.
Post # 10
hmmmm I didn’t read your post as a need to be married. no one needs to be married. i think you want to be married to the person whom you have shared your life with for the last 6.5 years. it’s really hard to watch your friends move on to the next level in their relationship when you are waiting for your own next level. does your boyfriend want to be married? maybe when you aren’t so emotional you can defintiely sit down and have a talk with him to make sure you both want the same things in your relationship. ((HUGS))
Post # 11
guuurrlllll! we are all here!!! or there? and that’s what we are here for. i know it’s easier said than done to to be happy with what you have, and i know how awful it feels. but you have us and keep the faith 🙂
Post # 12
::hugs:: let it all out here. i know how frustrating it can be seeing everyone else move foward while you’re seemingly standing still. hang in there though! we’ll help you through 🙂
Post # 13
I felt the same way you did. My Fh and I were together for almost 5 yrs before we got engaged. Even bought a house tOGETHER with no ring! all my friends are either married or engaged and I am the last one to go and the longest relationship too. I feel your pain. When the timing is right, he will pop the question and when he does, your head is going to go in a whirlwind of excitment. Just relax, it will happen.
Venting is always a must. Just not to him. That is what weddingbee is for!
Post # 14
I know that feeling. I was moh for a friend and I was jealous that she was getting married first. now she is my moh and she is sad hers is over and I still get to plan.
Cheer up- it will happen!
Post # 15
I feel better now. I also called my best friend at work and I know she is busy so I asked for 1 minute of her time-I vented for the 1 minute and then i said “thanks for listening, get back to work” lol 🙂
I have spoken to my BF MANY times about getting married. He wants to get married its just that we are both in graduate school and won’t be done till summer of 2010. We have a “tenative” date for our wedding for August 2011. SO i keep saying things like “you know I need a year and a half to plan” becuase I will be busy working. He’s response was like oh no you don’t need that long. So the other day when he was in a good mood I asked him if i could show him something wedding related and he said yes. So i showed him one of the forums that people we’re discussing about getting their venues 1-1.5 years or more in advance. He thought i was crazy when i told him that but now he finally believes me and i think he understands. As there is only one date in August I want. SOOOOOOO here’s to hoping it happens soon 🙂
Thanks for all the support! You are so awsome! It’s good to have people who understand.
Post # 16
i hear you! my boyfriend and i have been together 5.5 years today and i’m so sick of waiting! i’m also sick of hearing via facebook that almost every person i know is engaged or getting married and they’ve only been with their fiance/husband for 1-3 years. my boyfriend is the least decisive person i know and i’m not quite sure what exactly he’s waiting for since he’s told me since august that he knows he wants to marry me! i had a huge punch in the gut when my best friend from college got engaged last month out of the blue after only dating her boyfriend for 2 years.
i’m totally here for you to gripe with!