Post # 1
So my brother is sssssssssssssssooooooooooo ridiculous lately. Um..he’s on academic probation because he did so poorly his first year. He’s doing so poorly this semester that his advisor told him he should/needed to transfer to the community college if he wanted to stay in school and he’s not going to do any better there if he doesn’t change. He goes out all the time and is so irresponsible. To top it all off he just got a DUI this weekend! I’m so pissed off at him right now I can’t even stand to be in the same room as him. He lives with us (my fiance and I ) and I can’t stand him at all. Right now he’s laying on the floor, texting people, like nothing happened. He always says stuff like s*** happens, and keeps making excuses for his actions. I want to kick his butt to the curb because he takes no personal responsibility for anything. I don’t think he gets that he could have hurt himself or others, even killed someone driving so drunk. I just yelled at him now and he just shrugged it off. My blood is boiling! I’m so sick of this attitude from him and like every student on my flippin campus that get so drunk they endanger themselves and others.
Sorry I just REALLY needed to vent about this because I am having trouble controlling my temper!
Post # 3
I’d kick him out for a couple days. He’s gotta hit the bottom and see that you won’t always be around to bail him out before he changes. So sorry you’re going through this and I wish you all the best! Family stuff is always so complicated and while I’ve never gone through this, I know that if my sis was acting like this (and she does live with me) one of us would be gone ASAP.
Good luck and my thoughts are with you!!!! Hugs!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
S*** does happen, but a lot moreso when you’re busy s***ting all over the place. 🙁
I’m really sorry. It always hurts when it’s people we love who are screwing up so much.
Post # 5
If that were my brother, I’d kick him out. If he was going to live with me, then he’d have to follow my rules (wow, I just sounded like my father). But it’s true. Sometimes tough love is in order. I guess it really just depends on his options… I don’t think I would do it if he had to live on the street, but if he had a friend he could live with or something, then I would. He may grow up if he doesn’t have someone supporting him.
Post # 6
He could live with either one of my parents. And I think it would be good for him since he will be loosing his license, it will rein in his activities a bit because he will need to catch rides with them. But I know that in reality he will couch surf…which I’m to the point that I don’t care. Maybe he’ll realize what he’s doing after he starts peeving off friends instead of just family.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry. I’ve been there. I didn’t have the heart to kick my brother out. I loved him too much. Sometimes I wonder if it would have been better for him to send him packing, but the thought of him being homeless killed me. Its been 5 years and I am happy to say that he turned his life around completely. Best of luck.