(Closed) I am so pissed!!!!!!!!! (long vent)

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

How horrible! My sister dated a real loser, just like this guy, for a long time. I don’t use the word hate loosely, but I really hated that guy. I hope things get better for your employee and that loser stays the heck away from her and your business!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

What an A**Hole!!!!  Just think about how your employee now feels…she’s gonna be so embarrassed to come to work after he pulled all that drama and involved you and your workplace.  

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh, wow, I am so glad she and the daughter are OK. That is intolerable, and I am glad you got him restricted from the daycare.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That is horrible! I am so happy the child is safe though. But man, she needs to get rid of this guy ASAP! I can’t handle guys like that.

Post # 9
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283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hope this means that their relationship is now over!  That whole thing is terrible.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Oh my god!  That’s completely terrifying!  How scary for her, her child, and for you as well!  I don’t blame you for being living–I’m livid and I don’t know any of the people involved.  I hope she gets her locks changed, and a restraining order, and some friends and family to come stay with her while she deals with this.  And good for you for taking charge and protecting yourself and your business!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

If she hasn’t already, your employee should contact your local domestic violence services provider.  A good place to start is by calling 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE), which is the national hotline – they can refer you to local organizations.  A DV services organization can provide legal help for restraining orders and generally let her know what her rights are – and this would include making sure that her place of employment is included in the formal restraining order. 

Please do talk to her and offer your support, but try not to pressure her to leave him if she’s not ready.  If the relationship is violent, she may have very good reasons to worry about her safety when she does decide to leave, so that may not be something that is immediately possible for her.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

No problem!  She is definitely lucky to have a supportive employer.  It really sucks when women in this kind of situation don’t have understanding friends, family, etc.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Definitely call the domestic violence shelter and please get some help for your friend.  I am so sorry for her situation.  It’s sweet you’re being so supportive.

Understand that what seems normal to us, the whole “why don’t you leave him” idea we have when we see this type of action in a realtionship is different to those who are in the situation.  Leading her to good help and support to get her out of that abusive relationship is the kindest thing you could ever do.

Btw, before I left my xh, he did something that was violent and I left.  But I can see how over time it could have a different outcome.  I left him, but each situation is different.  Again, it’s wonderful you’re a supportive employer. Hugs to you!

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