(Closed) I am so sensitive! Am I getting on my MIL's nerves?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@BEWLove: I don’t even know where the question is??? She wasn’t excited enough?? I’m serious- is that he issue? Sister if that’s it, you’re in for a long year. We all say this over and over: no one (that includes family) is going to be as excited for your wedding as you are. Plain and simple. You need to get a thicker skin! You are being waaaaay too sensitive. 

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree, I think you are being way too sensitive. Honestly, my Future Mother-In-Law hasn’t said one WORD to me about our wedding. It’s a little strange but eh, that’s just how she is. You are definitely overreacting. No need to worry about anything!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@BEWLove:  I guess my only thought is to not be annoying then! Make sure you have other things to talk about. 

Also, you basically just said ‘I was expecting her to be excited’ and well, anytime you have expectations you are leaving yourself open to disappointment. Hopefully you have other people in your life that want to discuss the details and maybe just include her on the big stuff. An again, make sure you are not obsessing over the wedding. It gets old fast!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BEWLove:  I didnt read anything bad or “annoyed” in her response to you. Seemed positive and factual to me. You are too sensative. You had better manage yoou expections moving forward.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BEWLove:  My fiances mom is the same way when it comes to text messages!  She is not a big texter and always replies with one word answers so maybe your fmil doesnt mean anything by it.

Post # 9
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Don’t worry about, you are being way to sensitive and if you are getting upset about this, there a lot more in store for you! Too many people get upset because of how they take the tone of a text or email. What more casayer say in a text message. She’ll probably be a lot more excited about it when you talk to her face to face or on the phone. Don’t get upset about the tone of her text message.

Post # 10
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1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You have over a year to go, try not to drive yourself crazy reading into everything everyone says aka texts. Also I’m sure she’ll get excited about the veil when it gets closer to the wedding. Just remember no one will be as excited as you. 

Post # 12
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly if someone asked my to do soemthing timeconsuming and labor intensive for then so that they could save some money at their wedding I wouldn’t be too excited about it either.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t text her about things like this. If you’re asking her something that means a lot to you, I would always do that in person. Texts are too impersonal and it’s too easy to misconstrue what someone means through text.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think the year comment was a bit of a hint to take a breath and relax.  I don’t know how close you are to your Mother-In-Law, but traditionally they’re not overly involved.  Usually the groom’s parents host the rehearsal/groom’s dinner, and that’s about it.  I’m very close to my Future Mother-In-Law and the only wedding things we’ve really talked about was the date/time/venue confirmation and location options for the groom’s dinner.  All my OMG details! moments have been with my mom and best friends.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

i don’t see what the issue is here. I would have asked something important like that in person, not via text.  Then you can gauge her true reaction. Although you can’t change it now, I would have left out the money saving part, too.

But, in general you need to relax, you’re way over analyzing a silly little text.

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