(Closed) I am so sensitive! Am I getting on my MIL's nerves?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If this is the only problem you have with your mother in law…you have an amazing mother in law. 🙂

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Just remember that a lot of brides don’t want their Mother-In-Law overly involved in the wedding planning, and traditionally they are not.  I don’t have a problem with my Mother-In-Law but I don’t really need her help or opinion to be perfectly honest. 

Some wedding decisions you just need to try to remove emotions from — it sounds like you are viewing the wedding as a chance for you guys to prove how close you are, and honestly she is probably thinking more logically about things and the fact that it is over a year away.  So I would take her response as a cue to kind of drop the wedding stuff with her until you are closer to the date, and that she might not ever become too interested, which is totally her right.  Do not make her wedding involvement a litmus test for your relationship.  Really you will be GLAD to not have another opinion to consider as time goes on.

 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree that no one will will be as excited as you are. Be prepared for that. it is probably a good idea not to ask people to do things for you unless they offer to help. Good luck with your planning. The best part about starting early is that you have plenty of time to get everything done!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Yeah, it’s gonna be a long year if you are sensitive about that!!!!!!

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have exchanged literally not a single word with my Future Mother-In-Law regarding the wedding. And we’re on good terms. Sometimes she likes me better than her own son. But other people, with the possible exception of your own mother, are just not going to be as excited about your wedding as you are.

Also, I don’t know what your relationship is like, but you may have put her on the spot a little bit by asking her to make your veil. It would be extremely difficult for her to decline such a request, which isn’t quite fair on her.

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