(Closed) I am so torn on what to do about this shower invite list

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@abbybee:  Just send them a invite. It never hurts to include people! We sent my cousin one even though she is almost 6 hours away. She politely declined since she was coming in town the next weekend. I didn’t think she would feel obligated but I didn’t want her to feel left out.

Post # 4
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

This may make you feel much better. YOU are not having a shower, and YOU are not inviting anyone TO the shower.  Your AUNT is hosting a shower in your honor, and she will be doing the inviting.

I would provide your aunt with the list of names that I presume she requested from you and not  attempt to exempt certain individuals due to distance or other factors. If these friends are able to attend, they will. If they are not, they still may choose to send a gift. However, every invited guest has the option of declining the invitation without needing to provide a reason.

Post # 6
8863 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

send the invitite.  let the people decide if they want to come or not.

Post # 7
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@abbybee:  Definitely invite your friends within a 3 hour drive radius. It’s an easy drive and could be a lovely day trip. I drove 6+ hours to go to my friend’s shower because I WANTED to see her and I WANTED to give her a lovely gift. I think you may be surprised just how many fans you really have.

TBH, I live with maddening guilt but try to tuck it away. This moment of being a bride-to-be is so short. Celebrate it!

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