(Closed) i am so upset and feel hopeless about this wedding :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

although im all for a destination wedding does it have to be a Jamaican wedding because the jamacia part (flights, accomodation) seems to creating the stress and for me, escaping to get married should be less stressful not more

goodluck – hopefully it wont seem as daunting in the morning and remember you are NOT hopeless!

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i know what you mean – how important is it to have your future inlaws there?  we eloped with just the 2 of us and we wouldnt have it any other way

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@dynamic_duo: you poor thing! I wish I had an inspiring story that is similar and worked out but I have nothing. =[

 

sending awesome vibes and hugs your way!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should just book your ticket and figure his out when you can (or, just make concrete plans, and say he will fly from the eart coast for sure, just to give you something concrete to plan from. During my PhD, I saw so many of my friends dealing with the same issues – at some point, you have to stop sacrificing hundreds of dollars and just plan. It is not a big deal to fly separately. It is not a big deal to have him get to Jamaica at a different time.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

ah, i didnt realise there were so many attending – well i think you should book yor flight now so at least its one thing done and off the list.  i wouldnt offer to pay for your Future Sister-In-Law to be honest because shes an adult and if she is making bad decisions because of a boyfriend then she needs to feel the consequences of them. i hope your FI’s parents are going to get good news and they can then book flights as well.  try not to take too much on, you cant control everything so remember to put you and your Fiance first and that includes not shortening your wedding trip so you can pay for others to attend

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

excellent news and i hope you now feel more empowered about things – good teamwork to you and your Fiance. hopefully your Future Sister-In-Law will get her act together but that is not your responsiblity – i repeat, not. your. responsibility!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You know what I was in a similar situation. I had found the man of my dreams and had been with him at that time for 3 years. We got engaged with a small promise ring. No big diamonds, No eloaborate proposal. We were both in college and just moved into our first apartment together. I assured him that I could plan the perfect wedding for $5000. As we started planning I quickly found out that was not gonnna happen. After we began putting deposits down we realized that to have the kind of wedding I wanted we were talking at least $20,000. I was way off! So we ended up losing about $2000 and decided to wait. Needless to say I was not happy with that decision and that led to many arguments. Eventually we came to the idea of doing a destination wedding. Surely I could do that with $5000. Well now I lost $2000 so I was down to $3000. I did the research to have the wedding in the following places: Mexico,Hawaii,Dominican Republic, Key West, New Jersey, and  Ocean City Maryland each time thinking I could make it work. Every time for one reason or another (whether it was too expensive for us or not accessible for family) no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t make it happen.

Fast forward now 2 years later….I am done school and Fiance will be done in Dec. We lucked up and with a lot of hard work were able to buy a home that we thought we could never afford ( Thanks reccession!). We bumped up our budget to $13,000 and moved the wedding to Santa Barbara. I was able to find unbelievable deals on eveything planning so far in advance. Even with my budget and expected guestlist of 30 I got everything I wanted from beach ceremony to reception @ 5 star hotel, videographer & TTD session,bacholrette party in Vegas, and 7 night honeymoon in a Dreams suite in Mexico! Not to mention my 2carat wedding set will be paid off shortly : ).

I know it’s frustrating girl but hang in there. Waiting almost 3 years is not what I ever wanted but some things you can’t control. If getting married right now is something that you absolutley wanna do then just do it. If you wait for the family to get it together or everything to work out perfectly then you may find yourself waiting for what seems like forever like me.

Wishing you all the best

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Where are you having the wedding?

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