(Closed) I am telling my dad that he is not walking me down the aisle (nervous!!)

posted 8 years ago in Family
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

good spin! let us know how it goes!!!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Good luck!!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I think that sounds great, just the way you said it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow that’s a perfect way to put it!  He can’t argue with that one!

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think that’s the perfect way to say it.  Just be prepared for a wide variety of responses.

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had to do this too, and my dad took it really well. Honestly, I think he was a little hurt, but it was humbling. I am sure I will not regret it, even if my relationship with my dad strengthens, because I don’t want to pretend on my wedding day. I want it to feel more authentic than anything other day.

I think you are phrasing it in a really good way, but I personally don’t think you need to sugarcoat it too much or try to protect his feelings, because in the end this is about you. I feel very strongly about this! Good luck!

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Great approach, but one small tweek.

I would suggest that instead of saying, “if it is alright with you” say “I have decided”.

Don’t ask a question that you don’t really want the answer to. You have made a good decision for yourself, and that is the way it is going to be. I think you are very wise for trying to avoid drama, but you may invite a tad if he responds, “no it isn’t okay with me.” You don’t need to check with him, this is your decision, and you should, as politely as you indicate here, just give it to him.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s perfect! I’m glad you found a way to put it nicely!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I agree with monitajb – I would say “I have decided”, instead of asking. But it sounds great! Let us know how it goes!!!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think your approach is perfect! I hope he takes it okay.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore

Good Luck!! Love the spin πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

Wow, I love the spin you gave it!  If I were him, I would just be glad you’re even letting him participate at all!  Giving him the F/D dance is pretty special, so I bet he’ll understand that your mom will be walking you down the aisle.  Good luck, let us know how it goes!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Good luck! I think things will be okay πŸ™‚

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