posted 5 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
5664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

nycoleman :  DEEEEEEEP BREATH. Yeah, he sounds lazy or irresponsible or something. BUT it’ll be okay. The world won’t end. You will marry your guy. The pictures will be beautiful. Things happen. I promise it’ll be okay.

Post # 3
3460 posts
Sugar bee

Can you have it shipped overnight for first morning delivery?

He f’d up. He can borrow another GMs vest for family photos. You will still have a beautiful wedding. 

Post # 4
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Okay: while I understand you’re upset because your future brother in law completely ignored your request when you asked him to do one thing, he’s a shitty person. That said, it’s not worth getting upset about. You’re marrying the love of your life and you’re spending life with your fiancé, not his brother. It’s no reason to get all in a tizzy. Your day will be beautiful because it’s about you and your fiancé. 

Post # 5
1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

nycoleman :  firstly, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re in the position. Your FI really should have followed up on this ages ago to make sure everyone got it, but that’s not helpful now. 

The obvious answer here is just ditch the vests altogether. If you don’t want him to stand out, then have the rest of the groomsmen ditch the vests too. 

Alternative option if the brother and best man are not drastically different in size – put the best man’s vest on the brother and then put the best man in a vest that can be acquired tonight at a store. 

Post # 7
2436 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

nycoleman :  does he wear the same or similar size as the best man? Maybe you can buy a vest for the best man and have the best man give fbil his vest?

Post # 8
1245 posts
Bumble bee

That is seriously annoying.  Ugh.  If he was so irresponsible he could have asked somebody to take care of it for him or somebody could have kept on him about it.  At least you probably won’t have to regularly rely on him in the future.


is he the best man?  Maybe a complementary but different color could work? 

Post # 9
1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

nycoleman :  Overnight delivery?  PrimeNow?  Modern technology can solve this.

Post # 11
624 posts
Busy bee

nycoleman :  Everything ButternutPoppy :  said. 

Maybe another family member can jump in and help find a solution.  Maybe go to a fabric store and have a vest made…there are options.  But you can’t worry about it at this point. Delegate it to someone else and just try to focus on marrying the love of your life. 

Even if you cant find something to work, it will be ok. What will be will be. I promise you 5 years down the line the “vest” will be a non-issue in your marriage. 

Have an amazing day tomorrow! 

Post # 12
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Oh No, I am so sorry that is happening to you.  I would be so upset too…. but every single wedding I have ever heard of something has gone wrong, just go with the flow, he will be the one looking like an inconsiderate ass and not you, you will look beautiful on your big day, and congrats!!

Post # 15
3495 posts
Sugar bee

Deeeeep breath!! I just got married two weeks ago and know the insane ball of nerves that you are in one day before your wedding. But it’s all gonna be ok. At this point, you’ve done all you can to organize this weddng and now you need to work on letting go and just ENJOYING IT!

I would just have him omit the vest. Don’t worry about it – if this is all that goes wrong you are blessed! My groomsmen were supposed to wear suits of their choice in navy or charcoal (as in same color jacket and pants…), and one of them turned up in black and the other in a coat and slacks that were different (and clashing) shades of blue. I didn’t even NOTICE on the day…only looking at pics afterward did I realize it lol, and I couldn’t care less. Also they were all supposed to wear silver ties (which DH gifted them), but the best man rebelled and wore a black bow tie lol. Whatever. Let’s face it – no one looks at the groomsmen that much anyway…it’s all about the bride!

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