Post # 1
and he did not respondnot seriously. , he cracked a joke saying “ummm.. 5…or 10.. dollars. haha” don’t you hate it when guys do that? ok, a little background for those who don’t know our story. been together almost 1 1/2 years, he will be proposing by june,(it’s getting close yay!) whenever i talk to him he makes it seem like it won’t be long after we get engaged(as in, as fast as we can plan it we’ll have it) i had asked him how we are going to pay for our wedding a couple months ago. more specifically, should i start saving to pitch in for it? and he said he got it, don’t bother he will pay for it. well i am confused why he blew me off when i asked him about a ballpark buget! what do you think ladies?? doesn’t he realize that i wil HAVE to know what it is in a couple months when we start planning? opinions please!!
Post # 3
You’re note engaged yet, so talking about it isn’t neccessary to him. You don’t need to know anything yet.
Post # 4
I would worry about the budget AFTER he has proposed- for now just start saving money with an idea that everything is going to cost. If you have an extra hundred bucks a month after your bills- put that hundred away— once it starts piling up and he has proposed, you will feel GREAT about planning because you were proactive in the saving.
Post # 5
I think you need to wait until he’s proposed first. Talking a budget before it actually happens is a bit premature. After you’re engaged you guys can sit down and hammer out a budget. For now just save money when possible so that when he does propose you’ll have some in the bank 🙂
Post # 6
I would just save money for right now. Not just for a wedding, but because it’s smart. As much as you’re going through with him I wouldn’t hound him for wedding details.
Post # 7
Agree with the PPs. Just save. I dont think its right that if the two of you are going to pay for it that its “just him” anyway. It should be shared as much as is possible. Saving will never get you into trouble.
Post # 8
Like an above poster said, just start saving now. Worry about the actual plans when the engagement is official :). Much less headache that way. >.<
Post # 9
Agreed with PP, save what you are able! I did look back and saw that a few weeks ago even you were going to say no if he proposed. I’m a little confused why you are thinking about a wedding budget at this point.
Post # 10
my mister and i have discussed our expected budget and we’re not engaged yet, but since your guy doesn’t seem too receptive to answering these questions, i would just start saving the money anyway. if you end up needing it for the wedding, great. if not, then you can roll it over for something else.
Post # 11
@Carpie: things were rough for about 3 weeks but they have ben great before then and since then. turned out to be a rough patch! =-) thank goodness
Post # 12
We were together 3 years before we got engaged, and he wouldn’t talk about budget either.
Now that we’ve been engaged almost a year, and are less than 3 months from our wedding day.. he still won’t give me a budget. 🙂
My Fiance is paying for almost everything as well, but it’s been nice that I did start saving a long time ago. That way, little things that I want for the wedding, but he doesn’t.. I don’t have to ask him for.
Post # 13
I agree with the BEes telling the OP that just set up some extra savings now, and if her Boyfriend or Best Friend has got the wedding covered, she can spend it on the honeymoon, or whatever. I’m sure no matter what you budget, there will alsways be soemthing that comes up, from car breakdowns to surprise gift obligations. If you get past the wedding wihtout any surpirse drain on the cash – buy soem really nice lingerie for the wedding night 😉