(Closed) I Backed His Truck Into A Fence

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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SoonAsYouCan:  This wasn’t with my DH but another guy I was kind of seeing. Anyway he left his macbook on the ground right next to the bed and I stepped on it. :-/ felt like shit there was a tiny little crack in the screen. I offered to pay to get it repaired or buy him a new one like 100 times he said don’t worry about it . I was sooooo embarrassed but you know what, shit happens. I actually don’t think I have ever told that story to anyone in my real life I was so embarrassed LOL

You didnt kill anybody yes it sucks but trucks and material items can be repaired. It’ll be ok!!!!

 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Girl i feel you. We have a puppy who likes to get into everything. I didn’t put our gate up correctly and he chewed a cord by our tv. I saw it as soon as I got home that night. My husband is a huge gamer so I knew it was something to do with the PS4 or the Xbox. I called him to prepare him for the damage. Ooo he was mad. I thought puppy chewed the power cord to the Xbox, turns out it was just the HDMI cord to the tv. SO much cheaper then the power cord. I felt so relieved!

You have an AMAZING husband by the way. Clearly a winner!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your husband has.a firm grasp of what’s important in life. That is awesome. I once threw out a bunch of medals my husband won in his college sport. He was annoyed but he found them in the trash. I also threw out an envelope containing checks and cash but he found that too. Now whenever anyone in the family can’t find something,  they ask if I’ve thrown it out. My reputation precedes me. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Aww, bee I’m so sorry. I have to say though I’m so glad his reaction was making sure you’re okay and reminding you it was an ACCIDENT!! It can be fixed. 

But since you asked….. 

SO was gifted a $2500 iMac fron his department when he left his job to pursue grad school. He had been using it a few weeks at home before we moved and wrapped in a blanket and put it in the trunk of the car for our moving day. It was his sisters SUV and I forgot it was in there, opened the trunk and boom, the computer fell on to the pavement. The entire screen was shattered 🙁 I felt so horrible, still do. It happened after a string of unfortunate events so it was like icing on the cake. We’ve gotten estimates to replace the screen but it would cost sooo much money we can’t afford to replace it, at least not right now.

Oh well, shit happens right?! Life goes on. Dont beat yourself up over it! 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh bee, I’m so sorry this happened. All you can really do is go slower next time you are backing up.

You already apologized so from here I think you could start the repair process by reaching out to a few auto repair places and getting some estimates. I think that will show how serious you are about getting his truck fixed.

My husband recently backed my car into our friend’s car. He felt terrible about it but my friends and I realized that our cars are material possessions that can be fixed and tried to make him feel better about it because it was an accident. Maybe he was being a bit careless but we all make mistakes.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My husband and i had just left the supermarket and we were going to another store in the SAME parking lot but i still put my seatbelt on.  I know it was just the parking lot but i felt like i should put it on idk, i’m a stickler for safatey. When he didn’t put his seatbelt on i told him it was unsafe and he better hope we dont get into another car accident…. We left the other store and he put his seatbelt on. Less than 5 minutes later we got hit from behind, HARD. A young girl was coming off the expressway at 50mph and texting. We were stopped at a red light . She didn’t even have a second to stop before hitting us. We were transported to the hospital by ambulance together i kept appologizing over and over for saying about us hoping we dont get into an accident. I felt like somehow by saying it, i made it happen. Like if i didn’t say anything we wouldn’t have gotten hit. He just laughed and said it was ok and that he’ll always wear his seatbelt no matter what. I felt horrible. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m pleased you’re okay! That’s all that matters. I am relieved your husband is a normal person and realises this too. I’d be really worried if he were more concerned about the truck.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

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SoonAsYouCan:  he sounds like a fantastic husband and a wonderful human being who has his priorities in order. (Let me guess, he’s southern and/or from the country?)

Rather than being sad about an accident, I’d be thrilled and feel blessed to have such a wonderful partner. Yes, it sucks big time! Yes, it’ll cost money to replace. Yes, it would have been better if HE would have been the one to damage it (or better yet, not have the damage at all). And finally: Yes, people make mistakes that feel awful BUT objects are replaceable and I bet you will never forget his kind reaction to a situation that feels terrible (to both of you).

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I was in a fender bender last year and my front bumper had to be replaced. Not 24 hours since the repair had passed and my Fiance hit a fountain in his driveway and scraped all the paint off.

I was so livid, especially since I kept telling him “don’t back out that way you’re going to hit the fountain” and he ignored me and did it “his way”.

Honestly I still seethe when I think about it (so I try not to!) but in the end it was just a car and accidents happen. 

I didn’t expect my Fiance to spend the rest of his life making it up to me or anything. He was very sorry and did what he could to help me pay for the repairs- that’s really all you can do. Beating yourself up for all of eternity won’t help you or him feel any better. Get the car fixed as best you can and move on. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

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daniellemc:  wait, what?

You felt horrible because you potentially saved your hubby’s life after an irresponsible girl slammed into your vehicle and even WITH seatbelts you were still injured?

Imagine what might have happened if he wasn’t wearing one! Sheesh. Rather than feel badly because I had willed it to happen, I’d be patting myself on the back for having intuition/luck/brains to buckle up and minimize injuries. #perspective 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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doberman:  haha my husband is that way. Whenever I can’t find something I ask if he’s thrown it away! 

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Helper bee

 

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SoonAsYouCan:  Lucky you, you won the real man lottery.  As horrible as it was, now you know you can trust this man to handle it when something catastropic does happen.  Like he said, its just a truck, something that can be fixed.  You’ll also never do that again, you’ll be so darn careful.  Happy New year.

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Buzzing bee

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SoonAsYouCan:  Oh my gosh your story brought tears to my eyes – truly! Your husband is certainly a keeper. 🙂 And you are too! Accidents happen. Your husband is right, you can’t beat yourself up about it. He knows what’s truly important in life, and is handling this in an amazing way. Your guy is one of the good ones! 

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