Post # 1
Today I became “that girl”. I asked the size of her ring 🙁
a coworker got married this summer in Las Vegas. We were at the copy machine together and talking about our weddings, asking how things went, things like that. I saw her ring as she was moving her hand, and asked to see it. All I could say was “wow!”.
I then did the unthinkable. I asked her how big it was.
The Center stone is three carats with a half carat on either side, making her ering 4 carats total. She didn’t know the carat weight of her wedding ring, but it was a half eternity band with five stones. Comparing it to the other ring, I would say that each stone was at least 1/3 carat, making the entire ring almost 2 carats.
Which makes her set almost 6 carats!!!!!!
I did tell her repeatedly that her ring was gorgeous, but I just feel so bad that I asked her what size it was 🙁 it is honestly the largest ring I have ever seen in real life
Post # 3
haha. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. At that size, I’m sure it gets a lot of attention and everyones thinking it. I feel like asking about *huge* sizes like that, which are usually uncommon is not the same as asking about a “normal” or smaller ring. It’s a ‘holy shit that’s freaking huge/amazing, how big is that curiousity’ rather than a simply nosy, or possibly competitive reason for asking.
Post # 4
@Glasgowbound: Dont beat yourself up! At least you werent bashing her for what she has! You were polite about it all so I’m sure she just took it as a compliment!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry either. You meant it from a good place and I’m sure it came across that way.
Post # 6
She wouldn’t have gotten a ring that big if she didn’t want people noticing its “hugeness” and commenting on it. I wouldn’t worry.
Post # 7
As long as you praised it, you’re in the clear : ) Just don’t give her the feels that you may possibly be talking crap or something…
Post # 8
@Glasgowbound: She probably enjoyed being asked.
Post # 9
I think it’s more cringeworthy when it’s a small ring and the question is asked!! I don’t see issue with what you did and how you went about it, given the circumstances of the ginormous rock. 🙂
Post # 10
At least you didn’t ask if it was real, she probably gets that question plenty as well with a ring that big!
Post # 11
This is why I don’t get offended when someone asks “How large is that?” or “Is that real?”, because just like you, most people aren’t being malicious about it, it’s just curiosity! Don’t let yourself feel bad about it, “oops” moments happen to all of us. 🙂
Post # 12
@crayfish: Believe it or not, some of us didn’t script our lives to the point where we picked out our engagement rings or wedding rings (or gave him cliff notes and a script to the proposal either). We allowed our husbands to do it and they came home with them all on their own…
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
I think it’s only considered bad form when you’re saying it in a demeaning manor when someone has a tastefully sized diamond… and you say it as though you are bashing their ring.
When someone has a ring THAT big, they want to show it off and probably proudly say how big the diamond is… otherwise size never would have been a priority!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
@Glasgowbound: I think that when you are wearing a diamond that large, you know it’s going to be noticeable and should be expecting people to ask about the size.
it’s not like you asked her what she paid for it or her and her SO’s combined salary was or anything. I don’t think it was inappropriate at all.
Post # 15
Better than my FI… he told me he asked someone if hers was a fancy yellow diamond (and it wasn’t).
Post # 16
@Glasgowbound: i think since it was huge like that it was more shock value u do u ever ask for smaller then normal or normal rings thats when tis more offensive … i am sure she is used to it or will be getting used to it