I bought him an Engagement ring….. thoughts?

posted 1 month ago in Engagement
  • poll: Should I go forward with the Proposal?
    I'm overthinking and I should give it to him anyway : (53 votes)
    80 %
    I should talk to him about it first, even though it may ruin the proposal : (11 votes)
    17 %
    don't give him to him since its not part of his culture. : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 32
    2905 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think the ring is really unique and clearly has sentimental value.  it’s gorgeous.

    with that said, you know your SO enough to know how this will go down.  My fiancé would have not been a fan of a proposal and he doesn’t even want to wear a ring when we get married, so an engagement ring would be an absolute no go.


    Post # 33
    521 posts
    Busy bee

    That is so lovely ❤️ I’m sure he’ll love it, so special with the sentimental sand too!!

    Post # 34
    2198 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    That’s a super cool idea and I love the ring!!!

    Post # 35
    67 posts
    Worker bee

    I think the ring is so cool!  The idea of giving him a ring is so nice, it’s just another way of bringing you together!  My fiance doesn’t have an engagement ring but we have already purchased his wedding band ( he doesn’t normally wear any jewlery so it was nice he wanted one!)  On our 2 year engagement/proposal anniversary ( if you can call it that?? lol)  I suprised him with his wedding band that we already had but I had our wedding date engraved on the inside.  It was a small gesture but he loved it, as I think your partner will love your gesture too!  Keep us updated on what happens smile

    Post # 36
    279 posts
    Helper bee

    anonymousbee001 :  Perhaps it depends on where your from. Call me old-fashioned but when I think of a diamond ring I picture a woman wearing it. I’m pretty opend minded so if that’s how I feel, I suspect a lot of men wouldn’t be too eager to be seen wearing what they consider “womens jewellery”.

    This is just my opinion, to me the ring is beautiful, but feminine (mainly because of the diamond.)

    Post # 37
    1197 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t think it matters what ppl say. My Fiance is white and I’m Asian. And he also wears a ring. I didn’t see it as a cultural thing. We just do what we want. When we were discussing engagement rings, he told me he wanted a ring too. That it wasn’t fair I’ll be the only one who gets something, lol. To him, he wanted to show off that he was taken as well. He actually picked out what he wanted before we even got engaged. The ring came in right around the same time I knew he was also planning to purpose to me. I gave it to him the same night he purposed to me. He wears it like a wedding band and tends to keep it as the wedding band once we’re married. I actually think it’s super sweet of him to wanted something to show that he was taken as well.

    I’ve heard similar stories of females also purposing. I think it’s super sweet what you’re thinking of giving and doing for him 🙂

    Post # 38
    1 posts

    penkneelane :  

    re: OP

    I’m a guy and I’ve been researching engagement rings to get my girlfriend. A month in and a ton of knowledge gained, I’ve come to the realization that I’m actually kind of jealous that I don’t get an engagement ring in our western culture.  

    But also, I think typical mens ring styles are ugly. I want a nice knife edge solitaire with a stag and finch alexandrite rupie cut dammit, gender norms be damned. Somewhat thicker band? Sure. Bezel set or such? Ehhh.

    After I propose I’m definitely tossing it out there that Ed Sheeran gets to wear a ring… haha…. I want her to have her own dream ring, even if it’s markedlg different from what I elect to propose with, and I want to have my dream ring. With lab created gems, I don’t think that’s too crazy.

    It’s funny though, I don’t wear any jewelry. I have a steel bracelet people in my parents’ religion wear, but I’m not religious. I have a gold chain my dad bought me when I graduated HS, but I’ve worn it maybe two times in over a decade. I’d rock the heck out of an engagemet ring though and if someone criticises me I’d be more offended at their absurd attitudes than embarassed about anything. 

    On that note though, the proposal itself is still something I want to be the one to do. I’d be pretty miffed to be asked directly or proposed to simply because I really wanna tug at her heartstrings on that one evening and get that rush of emotion from the traditional grand gesture.

    Post # 39
    725 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    That ring is so thoughtful and beautiful and definitely masculine. I’d give it to him and the hell with what anyone thinks. My coworker’s husband has a whole row of diamonds on his band. FH is going to have a sapphire on his. 

    Post # 40
    116 posts
    Blushing bee

    Definitely an amazing idea!! Check Franceska Boermann on Youtube, she made a video “things I didn’t expect about engagement” where she talks about getting a mangagement ring for her now husband.

    Post # 41
    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    Bee, I love everything about this from the special touches o the ring design to him wearing a ring, too. I just mentioned it to my husband and he said “Oh, that’s cool and it makes a lot of sense.”  We’re middle aged and in Texas, so it’s not something we’ve seen, but we both really like it. 



    Post # 42
    2624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: County courthouse

    I don’t think the ring you designed looks feminine at all. It looks really masculine and rugged. I also don’t think that diamonds are only for women and find it quite sexist that some bees have said so. Where I live I see lots of men’s wedding bands blinged out with diamonds. I do think you’re over thinking this whole thing. It’s a very sentimental gift that I’m sure he will enjoy. Best of luck OP

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