Post # 1
…now i feel like maybe i was a bit overbearing for basically enforcing a certain type of jewelry on top of the whole outfit. they really are so gorgeous i bought some for myself, too, but now i feel kind of bad about not letting the ‘maids express themselves. can’t take them back as they have a no-return policy. what do you say? have i just reached the point where i need to stop worrying about so much? or should i renege?
Post # 3
when i was a bridesmaid last summer the bride gave us all silver necklaces with our initials on them the night before at the RD…she told us we were welcome to wear them the next day, but it was completely up to us (and we all wore them the next day).
Post # 4
I would give them the jewelry but also include a gift that is not wedding related so it doesn’t seem like you’re just telling them what to wear instead of gifting them a thank you gift.
Post # 5
If you’ve give them to the girls, then don’t take it back. But, if you feel bad about giving them jewelry, then tell them that you don’t expect them to wear it on your wedding day. As a bridesmaid, I usually expect to get jewelry, so I am sure no one was upset with you for giving them beautiful necklace, I bet they really appreciated it!
Post # 6
I’d explain that you saw the jewelry, got excited, bought it for them, and that it’s completely up to them to wear it for the wedding or not.
Post # 7
I don’t think you should worry about it.
I have totally taken over this with my girls. I am making their boleros/shrug, dresses, and jewelry and I purchased their shoes for them. I figure it is my day, so if I want a certain look, I should get it.
I have also purchased them other gifts to use after the wedding and they are not wedding related, except that they are their gifts.
Post # 8
good advice – i made sure to email them to say it was “part” of the gift and i was letting them know ahead of time so they didn’t worry about finding something for the big day. cool. thanks!
Post # 9
Just give them the jewelry as a gift. It doesn’t mean they have to wear it to the wedding, but they probably will anyway.