Post # 1
Hi bees! I had a few glasses of wine, and am in a bit of a wine-induced state of indecisiveness. Basically, what has happened is that I bought two wedding bands, because I overthink everything and can’t make decisions to save my life. Now that we’re only a few weeks out, I have to decide.
My engagement ring is a plain diamond solitaire. I have bought both a plain wedding band (engraving to match the one in my FI’s plain band) and a 3/4 eternity band. I am debating between the following two options…
1.) Wear all 3 bands as my wedding set. The plain band would be the wedding band, and I’d wear it 24/7, adding on the diamond band and engagement ring for work/dates (which, By The Way, is the only time I wear my engagement ring at present).
2.) Have the diamond band and engagement ring be my “wedding set” that I wear on a daily basis, use the plain band for travel/weekends. I’m not sure if I’d use the plain band in the ceremony so it’d be the “real” wedding band or not…I’m not superstitious or anything, but maybe the sentiment would be nice?
I wish I’d only bought one ring! I prefer the look of option 2, but love the romanticism of a plain band. Sigh.
Post # 2
I love the stack! So many more options to play with!
Post # 3
Go with the single gold band. Classics are classic for a reason.
Post # 4
I voted for other because…. just wear whatever you want when you feel like it, I would keep them both and wear it as a stack or wear one band or the other or just the bands without the Ering… you don’t have to be designated to wearing it a certain way all the time! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills
If it’s in your budget to keep both, do it! I love the stack, but you can wear it all different ways and switch it up to a single gold band, or just the engagement ring and pave band, etc depending on what you feel like.
Post # 6
The stack is fab, and either wedding band alone will be lovely for different reasons/activities. Keep them both!
Post # 7
All three look great together. You can mix and match…maybe for every day stuff you go through a phase of just wanting the diamond bad rather than the plain band. You have options and nothing is written in stone.
Post # 8
dianaj17 : I would keep both but use the plain band when you get married and keep the diamond band aside until your 1 year anniversary. Something to look forward to and for your first year of being married you have the classic plain band.
Post # 9
I SO appreciate the feedback! A few notes…
I have to keep them both. The diamond band was custom on Etsy (and wasn’t a huge investment anyhow, I got a great deal), and the rose gold band is engraved.
On that note, I picked out/bought the eternity band, so I don’t really know if holding onto it for a year would really provide much sentiment? Plus, bless my Fiance, he doesn’t even understand why the woman gets a second ring at the wedding (he lives in a bizarre bubble where both his mom and the few married female work friends he has all wear just a band), so he’s no help in this, LOL.
My big “issue” I suppose is that I love all three rings independently, but don’t love the look of all three together like I thought I would. I suppose that a big part of this is me having it drilled into my head that 2 rings=married.
Finally, I don’t know how I feel about the plain band with the engagement ring, which is why I didn’t list it as an option. Something about the widths together looks weird to me.
Post # 10
dianaj17 : My favourite look was all three together! I do love your e-ring and the diamond band together too, I agree that the e-ring and plain band arent sitting quite right together on their own but I think all three rings together make a really nice stack Xx
Post # 11
I love the solitaire with the eternity band, as that’s the look I’ll be rocking, too! Mine is a 3/4 eternity band and I also got it for a good deal on Etsy. I also thought about getting a plain band to wear but the one I ordered from Etsy I didn’t like, so I returned it. I ended up getting a silicone band that I can wear while hiking, etc.
Post # 12
Today’s thought is as follows: (also, don’t drink too much wine on a Sunday night, ugh)
-Exchange the plain band in the ceremony (his is also plain, they have matching engravings inside)
-For work/date nights, wear the engagement ring and 3/4 eternity band on my left hand and plain wedding band on my right hand. Right now, with just my engagement ring, I put it on right before I leave for work and take it off as soon as I get home. Once married, I’d do the same (take off the engagement ring/eternity band and put them in their box) and then just swap the gold band to my left hand. This could appease my romantic “wearing the wedding band 24/7” desire while still letting me rock the look I like. So nights/weekends, it’d be plain band only.
-When I travel, wear the plain band and eternity band together and leave the engagement ring at home (since I can’t sleep in it and wouldn’t have to worry about losing it).
It’s funny, how much you internalize traditional family things and don’t realize it. Prior to lurking here, I never realized that people ever had anything other than their original engagement ring and wedding band, much less swapped things around. Overcoming that, even for something so utterly insignificant, has been eye-opening! I’m self-aware, and even re-reading my post I can’t help but think “this is the most first world problem post I’ve ever read”
Post # 13
I’m in a similar boat! I have a solitaire engagement ring and am torn between a simple plain band, or a thin pace diamond band. Weighing tradition and practicality against my unexpected draw to the way the diamond band looks with and without the engagement ring. It’s a hard decision! Good luck!
Post # 14
I also bought 2 wedding bands before my wedding with the intention of stacking all 3 but nowadays pick one to wear with my engagement ring depending on my mood. I love having that option and now want more bands lol. I used the diamond band during my ceremony but figured the band isn’t what makes me married so it doesn’t really matter to me which one I decide to wear with my engagement ring. All my rings come off soon as I get home though because I baby them!
Post # 15
I’d do plain band for wedding ring, and wear the eternity when you feel fancy. I don’t like eternity bands for daily wear but I’m also just a fan of a plain wedding band that never leaves your finger!