- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
As soon as we got engaged, we began talking about budget and we capped the dress budget at $2000, but I think my fiance was being hopeful that it would be more in the $1000 range or under.
I was open to trying on all sorts of styles. I just knew I wanted to find one that I could see myself wearing on the wedding day and one that made me feel beautiful. I got myself a ton of bridal magazines and began collecting ideas. Maybe this is where I started it off all wrong, because most of them are higher end… but at this point I was just collecting ideas. I found two in particular that stood out to me, one was the Melissa Sweet Cossima and the other was the Jim Hjelm 8962, both of which had trunk shows in Atlanta that weekend. It wouldn’t hurt just to go and try them on first, right??
I was SO wrong. I never bought into the idea of “the one,” or thought that existed until I tried on the Jim Hjelm. I completely fell in love with the dress, and every other dress I tried on after that just did not look or feel good at all.
I know it’s really silly of me because it’s a dress I’ll be wearing for probably only 4-5 hours, but I spent the whole weekend crying because I knew it was way over the budget, yet I couldn’t get my mind off of it.
I talked to my friends and other people who gave me mixed advice. Some told me it’s my wedding day and I’m allowed to splurge, while others told me I should have never been trying on dresses out of my price range.
I presented my dilemma to my fiance, who I ended up taking to the bridal shop to show him. (Ideally, I would have wanted it to be a surprise, but I knew he would never go for it unless he saw for himself how much I wanted it and how great it looked on me.) He agreed and finally gave in knowing that I probably wouldn’t be happy any other way.
The dress even at its discounted price after tax ended up being $4300, and because I’m so petite and short, I would never be able to sell it afterwards. Now, I’m being forced to cut back in every other area of our budget, which makes planning ten times more difficult, and it looks like we might even have to cut down on guests. Was I being too selfish? I just feel really guilty and like a total brat, and it doesn’t look like I will ever hear the end of it.