Post # 62
For those of you who are saying we are being harsh, I want to point out that she asked for our opinion and we gave it to her. Its too late now for her to change her mind, but she wanted to know if we thought it was the right thing to do, which I don’t think it was.
Post # 63
It’s perfectly fine. I’m not fragile and I don’t feel like I’m being harshly judged. I really do appreciate the feedback. It helped me appreciate him a lot more… I can tell you that much. 🙂
I seriously do wish I had areas where we could cut back.. I don’t remember the last time we had a date night since this whole wedding planning began… OR even the last time I pampered myself or bought something nice for myself. I think a part of me felt justified to splurge since I felt like I was cutting back on so many things in the day-to-day.
I really am a practical girl. Practical to the point where I didn’t even feel the need for an engagement ring. Simple wedding bands would have been fine with me. And it felt SO SO out of my character to even want to have a dress in that price range, but whatever it was when I tried it on, it was just that hard to let that one thing go. Why Jim Hjelm.. do you do this to me?!
ANYways… Glad to say, we did talk a lot of these things over last night. I’m thankful that we’re able to talk through these kinds of issues. I’m completely fine with cutting things out of my items on the wedding budget first, which is what we were planning on doing. Plus, he had no idea this was bothering me so much. It’s amazing what one simple conversation can do.
Post # 64
For what it’s worth you look amazing in it.
Post # 65
It’s an absolutely gorgeous dress, and you look beautiful! Chin up! You’re not the first girl to splurge and double their dress budget. 😉 I did the exact thing, falling in love with a $5000 Lazaro, when my mom had gifted me $3000 for my dress. I also ended up in tears thinking about it before I bought it! I’ve just been doing extra babysitting, and cut some flowers to make room in our budget. Luckily, in our case, the budget was flexible, and more of an arbitrary number, not indicative of our overall incomes and we could afford to splurge.
We’re both blessed that we have fiances who just want us to be happy. 🙂
Post # 66
I am so glad you and your Fiance are on the same page, that really is the most important thing!
Post # 67
it is a beautiful dress and it’s YOUR day.
my personal wedding budget was $1000. i couldn’t justify spending ANYTHING more than that on a dress that i’ll probably never wear again.
but it’s all about personal preference. and technically you only went over your budget by $2300, i’m sure there’s tons of DIY projects (ie. invitations, favors, Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts) that you can do to suffice the difference!
Post # 68
Gorgeous dress and you look so radiant in it!! Don’t second guess your decision just enjoy your dress and every minute of your wedding. Since you and your fiance discussed it together, you shouldn’t feel any guilt. Just prioritize what’s most important to you about your day and cut back on the other areas.
I had a similar dress shopping experience. I was determined to get a good deal on a dress and thought it was ridiculous to spend more than 1k. That was until i started trying dresses on. I found a dress I loved that and although my parents were ok with the price, I just felt it was too much since I didn’t think the dress was that important to me. So I kept looking at other dresses, going to sample sales and looking for a preowned dress. But my family convinced me it was worth spending more on something I loved rather than buying a cheaper dress that didn’t make me happy.
I am so happy I listened to them. I love my dress and can’t wait to wear it. I picked up an extra freelance project to cover the cost of alterations and accessories and I scaled back the flowers so in the end, it hasn’t affected our budget much.