- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
…. i selected my wedding party more than a year out. stupid- i know, i know. but let me give you a little background…
i have 5 bridesmaids: my cousin who is the only person in my family that doesn’t drive me bonkers, my childhood best friend who i used to play wedding with when i was 5 years old, my coworker friend who has been a godsend, my FI’s best friend from college who is the party captain! and then there is my Maid/Matron of Honor, or should i say MOHzilla.
MOHzilla has been through the last 2 really crappy long term relationships with me, wants desperately for me to be married and procreate. her 2 (soon to be 3) children are like my nieces and i was her Maid/Matron of Honor when she got married years and years ago, so when we told her we were getting married she naturally became my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Fiance and I decided early on that we wanted a kid-free event. we’re going for a swanky, upscale, luxurious feel – no screaming children in the middle of the ceremony kinda deal. we told this to MOHzilla (really all of the BMs b/c one other one has a kid) in may. a month later she announced – via facebook- that she will be giving birth to bundle of joy #3 in the early part of 2011. she has brought up a couple times that she “might just have to bring the 7 month old to the wedding”. to which i have said “no, you won’t. no (screaming) children. none.” she gets pissy and changes the subject. the other BMs and i think she’s going to try to pull something at the last minute, which my awesome posse has told me i will be blissfully unaware of b/c they are going to “handle it”.
i found my dress very early on, with the help of momma chocolatte, Future Mother-In-Law, party captain and MOHzilla. she barely made it to the appointment and took HORRIBLE unflattering pictures of me finding the dress – but hey – i have pictures so that’s good, right?
then came the engagement party, which she and momma chocolatte were going to co-host at momma chocolatte’s house. guess who ended up planning and paying for most of it? ding ding ding – me and the mister! then, MOHzilla showed up an hour late and left very early. she was supposed to bring a loaf of bread, which i ended up having to grab at the last minute. her wonderful husband did show up with the cake (late) but i can’t blame that on him, since he worked all day! but i let it one go – because hey, she’s pregnant, right? and she’s my friend first and foremost, the party turned great, and all was well.
a month went by and now she’s decided that she wants to wear a different color dress than the other bridesmaids. i know a lot of people do this, but we don’t want to. Fiance thinks it looks bad. and since it’s Fiance and i getting married… i told her no. all my girls will be in the same dress, but i have asked them to pick out their own shoes, jewelry and how they would like to wear their hair. compared to some, i feel that’s a lot of freedom! Fiance told me the other day that he thinks this is another attempt to “steal the spotlight” – his words, not mine. this irritated me, b/c i would think my Maid/Matron of Honor would be supportive instead of combative, but then again she’s pregnant and hormonal so i let that go too…
so last night i invited my girls that live in town over for a girls night -just to say thank you, see how they are doing, let them bond a little more with each other. i made food, made little gift bags, decorated the house for Christmas – tried to make it a nice, relaxed night. guess who didn’t show up – oh i’m sure you guessed – MOHzilla. apparently after we made plans, she scheduled a maternity photo shoot for the same day. now i have never been pregnant before, but i am sure this far along in a pregnancy it’s exhausting. and if i already had plans with my bride, who’s wedding i basically appointed myself the Maid/Matron of Honor of… i wouldn’t put too much on my plate at one time. i was miffed about that, but then this morning i get a text from her about how she had such a great time at this shoot, blah, blah, blah – i admit it was all blah to me. and then one little blip about how she was SO SORRY she couldn’t make it but she was just SO TIRED and her day was SO BUSY. she’s a stay at home mom – which is a job in itself, i know – and i respect her for it. but it can’t be any worse than the other girls who work full time, raise kids, run to hockey practice, do laundry, cook, clean, etc…
all in all having her in the wedding makes everyone’s stress level go through the roof.
so here’s the dilemma – 2 of the girls asked me to kick her out last night. one of their husbands asked me to kick her out b/c he’s tired of hearing about it. and apparently momma chocolatte has been asking the girls to talk to MOHzilla about her attitude b/c i won’t (she’s about to give birth, and kicking people out is just not classy in my book!).
so ladies of the hive, what the heck do i do?