Post # 1
So we broke up 3 days ago. Like I said before, this time it seemed really final. I changed my status on facebook, and he did too. He is coming over today to get some stuff while I’m at class. I’ve been holding up okay but last night I got my heart broken all over again.
So all of his facebook passwords are saved on my computer. And in a moment of ice-cream-eating/Sex & The City watching-induced CRAZYNESS I logged in and wanted to look at him profile (I logged in under his username).
I know, I know. It was totally wrong and I shouldn’t have done it. I know. Obviously I’m in a fragile weird place right now, and if you go snooping in someones Facebook inbox you should just be prepared for what you find.
But guys…. he is emailing a girl. And he met her on Match.com. He already signed up for Match.com!!!!!!!!!! His emails are like “Yeah just hoping to start dating again, want to get out there…blah blah… looking for something fun.”
I’m at home, crying my eyes out– and he is already emailing another girl with winky-face emoticons in the messages???? I want to die.
I just don’t understand when you say you love someone and want ot marry them, and LIVE together, and then something really really bad happens, you can’t wait a WEEK before you go out looking for a replacement?
Post # 3
Ugh, I am so, SO sorry. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better — for now, just sending you major, major hugs.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
this happened to my friend, too recently and it was just the most hurtful thing. my heart hurt for you. it seems crazy and unfair, but maybe that’s just how he’s coping – he may not be actually ready to move on. hang in there, girl, time is a great mender.
Post # 5
Yeah, it’s never a good idea to go poking around in email/FB messages, but I understand the urge to do that. I’m so sorry that you found that out but at least now you know for sure that it isn’t meant to be with him.
Post # 6
I am so sorry. That is low of him. But, if anything, it should make you feel better about your decision. Obviously he didn’t love and care for you like you deserve if he can move on so fast. This should help you feel better and move on with your life. He isn’t worth the time, especially if he isn’t giving it to you.
Post # 7
I’m sorry this is happening for you… At least you can take some comfort in the fact that your antennas were well tuned, and you knew that there were problems.
It’ll be a process to heal, but there are going to be some amazing learning experiences along the way… and some great things for you at the end of it all.
Big hugs, and hang in there! We’ll be thinking about you 🙂
Post # 8
*HUGS* I’m so sorry you had to see that message. But I def get snooping through Fb/email. At least you found out now before the wedding that this wasn’t the right man for you. Even though you are going through a rough time, just know that you will find someone who loves and respects you the way you deserve.
Post # 9
what a moron! i would be sooo upset too! just try and refrain yourself from logging in anymore- match.com- wth?!
Post # 10
Im so so so sorry this is happening!! What a jerk, you deserve so much better. Try not to sit around and cry anymore, f*** that!!! If he is doing it then you go do it too! Contact a nice guy friend or even an ex or friends and go have dinner or something functional. It isnt going to get better so mind as well try to move on ASAP for your happiness and sake! This type of shit really gets me tight!!! Did you have any hints or red flags at all about him when you were together??? I mean, planning a wedding with someone is a big step, and for him to move on so quicky, he must have been doing it way before!
Post # 11
Honey this should just reaffirm that you are doing the RIGHT THING! He’s a piece of crap with obviously zero feelings or sense of normalcy. I know you are hurting right now, though. But man, he’s just…he’s something else!
Maybe it’s best you know? Now you know he’s such a punk…I dunno if it helps to move on or not, but i’m sure in the future it’ll all come full circle to you!
Post # 12
I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I really wish you never had to experience any of this. I guess the only bright side is that you will never second guess your decision of breaking the wedding off. He sounds like a real jerk and never even deserved you. Surround yourself with friends and family and focus on taking care of you.
Post # 13
Thank GOD you got out when you did!! This man is poison. Good on you for being strong enough to walk away. This was the best decision you’ve made thus far, I have no doubt.
Post # 14
My advice..pack up his stuff FOR him…take your keys back…and make sure he doesn’t have access to anything of yours. Maybe he is jumping back in the dating pool as a coping mechanism, or maybe he is looking for someone else to order his life…but a clean break hurts badly but heals cleanly. I am not a proponent of the e-mail/internet snooping…but you did it..and it turned out to be a good thing…water under the bridge now. All you can do is move forward.
Post # 15
im so sorry… i do understand and i been there. i can tell you to keep going on with your life, i wont be easy believe me, but you need to try. right now the best thing is to get everythign of his stuff out of the house. use some days for emotional standby cry because you need it. then start your life as a single women and let time pass before you jump into another serious relationship. with this situation you will learn and grow… dont worry every women go through this
Post # 16
That totally sucks 🙁 Not to jump on his side of things, but maybe he is just as hurt as you and doesn’t know what else to do except to start talking to other people to get his mind off of YOU? I know, lame excuse if that’s the case, but you never know… I think he is just weak, kind of sounded like it in your original post too, and can’t stand on his own.
At any rate, I think you should eat all the ice cream you want & watch all the SATC you want & cry all you want. Get it all out and then move ahead. You are strong & will end up with someone a lot better for you, girl! 🙂