Post # 1
Basically I met my exfiance at church. We hit it off. Slowly things were going wrong., I’d call, text nothing, I’d show up to take his disabled sister to church and he wouldn’t be home for the past 2 years he’s work M-F. Finally I found out he’s been texting a girl he met online and didn’t know if I was th one or her. We didn’t talk for a while. Finally I come home from work and he’s on one knee asking me to marry him. For a year we were fine. Then his sister calls me and says “he’s cheating on you and you could do so much better.” She sent me texts and pictures he’s sent that he’s never sent me. So we talked Tuesday and he said “I’m only with you because you’re stable, you have a job, you’re buying your own home, you can let me live with you for free and I don’t need to work.” After I threw my ring at him, I block his number and we havent spoken since. I’m heartbroken because this is my second engagement that’s been called off. In hurt about it ending but I know I deserve better.
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
You’ve dodged a massive, massive bullet there Bee. Let yourself grieve the relationship, then move on – you’re absolutely right, you deserve so much better. Good on you for doing the right thing for YOU.
Post # 3
It sucks because I truly thought he was the one. I’m just glad I didn’t spend any money on the wedding. But now I’m the part of my family’s jokes again. Two engagement called off within 5 years
Post # 4
Take some time to be upset and angry, but afterwards, pick yourself up and don’t give up. You deserve kindness, and you will find it. I had to be subjected to not one, not two, but four major heartbreaks before I found my fiance. And looking back, all of the shitty things happened so that I would be at the right place, at the right moment to meet my fiance. He is so kind, loving, and nothing like the boys before him.
You will be ok!
Post # 5
Not much to say except to offer some hugs. It hurts now, but it seems you know he wasn’t right for you. Take some time to yourself, so you’ll be more confident and can spot red flags in your next relationship.
Your family should be offering you support as well, not making fun at your expense.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
You do deserve better, and you’ll find it now that this idiot is out of the way. It’s awful when the rug gets pulled out from under you, and it’s ok to be sad and angry. After a while, you’ll start to feel better, and that’s when you pick yourself up and find someone who’s worthy of your love.
My ex absolutely ripped my heart out and stomped on it, I didn’t think things would ever be good again, but I did go on and I did get over it. You will too. I’m now with someone who’s infinitely better.
You got this bee!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry, what you’ve been through sounds deeply painful and humiliating. Dont let this affect your self-esteem and your sense of being worthy onl your own. Please take some time to figure out what went wrong in the last two engagements and more importantly, what was your part in it.
There are always red flags, pay attention to the ones you missed so that next time, you’ll be ready to do a better job of separating the wheat from the chaff, so to speak.
Dont rush into thinking the next man is the One. Really pay attention to things with your head and not get emtionally involved too soon. Remember a woman has to think twice, once for herself and second for her future children.
Your family shouldnt be making jokes, and you can tell them nicely that it hurts enough without their teasing. Ask them for their support in this time. You are kindhearted and trusting, both those things are great to have in a life partner with the right person.
Best of luck for the future.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
Oh bee hugs to you. Your family is being awful to you. They should be there to support you right now. I am just glad you found the courage to leave him now before you married him. Take time for yourself to mourn the loss.
Post # 9
callmelately : Wow- I am sorry for the pain you must be going though but it sounds like you dodged a massive bullet. Better to have two “failed” engagements than two divorces under your belt!
Post # 10
The end of a relationship is always hard, but this is truly for the best! You’re lucky his sister had your back. You will find someone so much better than this lame dude.
Post # 11
callmelately : WOW what an asshole, PLEASE do not get back together with this loser. His sister is right, you can do way better.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Awe, I’m so sorry you’re hurting OP! Thank goodness for his sister! Don’t be ashamed about ending a relationship with someone once you knew it wasnt right for you. You trusted him and he failed you in a major way, that’s on him, not you! Your family should hae you back and be supportive and encouraging, not judging you. If they arent supportive, maybe take a step back from those relationships and surround yourself with people who life you up. Hugs to you!
Post # 13
You did the right thing. Now go out and work on yourself. I am sure the last thing you want is to keep dating guys with those kinds of red flags. You didn’t give us much detail but it does look like he was sketchy early on. Why did you accept a proposal from him in the first place? Work on you, get to a place where you are proud of yourself so that you won’t accept less than you deserve. There is someone out there who will cherish you!
Post # 14
Sorry this happened to you. At least the jerk was shameful enough to tell you outright that he is using you. Otherwise, you might have held on for longer. Glad you are rid of him.
“Remember a woman has to think twice, once for herself and second for her future children.”
Odd comment. Not every woman can or wants to have children, and shouldn’t men be thinking of their future children as well?
Post # 15
The thing that hurts the most is I work extremely hard for everything I have. I can’t believe I thought he was the one.