(Closed) I called it off! Oh! The freedom! How do I let people know?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How Do I Let People Know... (I want to minimize dealing with difficult people)
    You HAVE to call everyone :( : (11 votes)
    15 %
    Send a personalized note in the mail : (47 votes)
    65 %
    Send an email (I wish) : (12 votes)
    17 %
    other (please explain) : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    2288 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    CONGRATS!!! After reading one of your previous posts, I’m so relieved FOR you! I say go for the note, and the people you are especially close to you can call. And I mean YOU. The people YOU want to call, call. Otherwise, psh.  

    Post # 4
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Honestly – call the people that are important to you and write a letter to the rest! I am sure the news will spread on it’s own as well!

    I am happy that you are happy and relieved! I wish you all the best!

    Post # 5
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yay for you and your FI!!!  Make your wedding YOUR day!!!  I agree with the above posters.  Or, if you want to, you could make a nice wedding announcement to send out, with a wedding photo of the 2 of you.  Have a wonderful elopement and honeymoon!  You deserve it. Hugs

    Post # 6
    257 posts
    Helper bee

    oh, she’s still getting married. I was confused. Glad you all know what she was talking about.  If you are eloping before the date… just elope and then come back and say, WE DID IT.  We’s married. 



    Post # 7
    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Since you haven’t sent out formal invitations yet, I wouldn’t think there’s anything wrong with just sending out a note to everyone.  And like PPs said too, I think the news will spread by word of mouth too. 

    Post # 9
    62 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I would just send out new std’s, noting that there has been a change and here is the new info. If your guest list is shrinking… well that’s a little trickier. If that is the case, I would personally call the ones who are “un-invited” and explain that you’ve had to change venues, cutting your numbers… probably not going to be too fun no matter what, but that seems like the most up-front way to handle it. Good luck!

    Post # 10
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I agree with the others bees that if you are eloping before the set wedding date, I would just send notes out to everyone saying we eloped!

    Post # 11
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Can you be cute and mail out a “Free Day” coupon? Like… “We’ve called off the wedding, so that day you took off work? It’s all yours”

    I’m sorry if that’s stupid, lol. Just my first thought.

    Otherwise, I would call everyone =)

    Post # 12
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would call the most important people and email everyone else, or ask your parents to pass the message along – word of mouth is good for this kind of thing. It’s not formal invites so I don’t think you need to worry too much. And yes I think an announcement of some kind after the fact would be lovely 🙂

    Post # 13
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are doing something similar.  Due to an unforseen circumstance, we are changing our wedding to next year.  We have called all that are personally involved in the wedding and are sending letters to explain the change to the rest.  We had sent out the save the dates as well.

    Post # 14
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d call those who would be coming in from Out of Town and incurring an expense first.  Then call close relatives.  Send out announcement to others!

    Have a blast!  We’re having a super duper intimate island wedding now and then a reception when we return!

    Post # 15
    1901 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I went through this a few months ago. We were scheduled to be married May 1st and were invting about 0. We called it off. We tried to call everyone but it became too difficult, so we started sending notes to the others. NOw we are getting married just the too of us – running off to Mexico. We will send announcements about 2 weeks after we get back.

    Post # 16
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Given your situation, I would send a note by mail.  Have fun with your elopement!  Revel in each other and the strength it took for you to stand up for yourself!  Proud of you.

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