Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor told me that a few weeks ago and it was such awesome advice!! Of course it isn’t literally true… I can’t have a ferrari 🙂 But I think its a good general life rule… you can usually get whatever you want if you’re willing to sacrifice other things.
For me (and FI), our venue and photography were most important. We’re going to have a venue that is probably too expensive considering our budget… but I just really want something unique!
So we’re giving up some other things. We’ll probably do email save-the-dates. I’ll make our invitations (cheap cheap cheaply— budget is $200 including postage for 110 people!). No videographer, very few flowers, aunt is making our cake, and we’re doing an ipod reception. And, no day-after brunch. Sometimes I stress a little about all the stuff we’re giving up… but I really think I’d rather have a cool place than a really bleh place with all the extras.
So– what are you giving up? Cutting back on? How do you feel about it?
Post # 3
Giving up on pro invites, cool transportation and crazy awesome decor.
Post # 4
Giving up on any sort of transportation (probly walking from hotel to ceremony/reception venue), any sort of fancy send off, fancy schmancy cake, Louboutin shoes (le sigh)…
But we have our dream venue, gorgeous flowers, and a great photographer 🙂
Post # 5
Giving up pro flowers and pro stationary for great food, a great photog and a photobooth!
Post # 6
We hired a retired florist, which was a huge money saver. Also, our invites are super basic (self sealing) and our cake is being made by a sweet lady who bakes cakes out of her home. Our videographer is a retired cameraman, who is charging $100/hour for 4 hours to shoot our wedding/part of reception. I’ll be doing the video editing, as that is my specialty! No day after brunch here either.
Post # 7
I’ve been married for almost 12 years (planning daughters wedding now) and if it were me now getting married I’d give most of it up to go on a great honeymoon (thinking the Cooks islands) We went to a hotel for 1 night (not a fine hotel…just a plain ordinary one) for our honeymoon because we spent all the money on the wedding itself. But I’ve traveled a bit since then, so I guess that makes up for it.
Post # 8
Giving up designer shoes that I thought for sure I’d HAVE to have for an extra event for our guests.
Post # 9
I’m giving up having a band. The one I wanted was $10,000… a girl can dream!
Post # 10
We’ve made ‘tough choices’ on a fair amount because I want to be able to pay for the entire reception (we’re getting married at city hall and having a cocktail reception the next day) with the money my parents are graciously giving us. Open bar, an awesome unique venue, and enough food to feed an army are taking up the bulk of my budget.
I talked to my dream photog and was able to customize my photography package so I get what I want at a price I can afford (NICE!).
I cut back on my dress. I found a dress I LOVED…but it was almost twice my dress budget that I set for myself. Luck was with me with this decision though. I found a similar dress in my bridal store’s sample room for $599 (!!!) and am going to alter the skirt and change the sash. I’m hoping to end up with a more unique version of my original dream dress…without the stress inducing price tag. Plus, I have more money for SHOES! 😛
I’m buying our invitations online, but am making the pocket envelopes and printing all the directions, hotel info, etc myself.
I’m happy with the choices because I will end up with a wonderful event and (crossing my fingers) won’t have any guilt because I’ve stretched my pennies.
Post # 11
Cake (costco, what what), flowers, two venues, no videographer, no fancy invitations (we spent $160!), expensive dress (spent $400), transportation…lots of “normal” stuff. We kept the brunch but only b/c it was leftover cake, leftover bagels and fruit, and coffee, so it’s not like we provided “real” food. And it only family+bridesmaids. Basically, everything but venue and photography, which topped the list.
Post # 12
Just wanted to let you know that I only spent about $200 on ALL my paper including envelopes! This included paper for programs, invitations, save the dates, favor tags, etc.
We’re inviting close to 200ppl btu only sent out Save The Dates to FI’s side and friends which equaled about 65 actual Save The Dates.
But our invites and save the dates are very simple. Save The dates are double sided.
Invites will be vellum on either side with a heavy red cardstock sandwiched in between. None of the fancy shmancy stuff.
We gave up limo, videographer, pretty much flowers. I’m making all our bouquets (check wholesale florist in your area). Very minimal flower centerpieces if any flowers in the centerpiece. Off the top of my head.