(Closed) I can hear our downstairs neighbors having sex! Best way to handle this?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

PortiaPie:  I agree, she probably doesn’t realize how much her neighbors can hear her! I used to live in an apartment in NYC, it’s super easy to forget how thin the walls are! 

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Leave some flowers and a bottle of wine at their doorstep saying “hope it helps you set the mood for tonight between 10 and midnight!”

edited to add: it’ll creep em out for real! har har.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee

Welcome to living in an apartment!! hahaha. Ptting up with noisy neighbors is part of the contract, unfortunately. And the minute you try to confront her or tell on her, I guarentee she will make your life hell. So my advice is to suck it up and MYOB.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

newbabybee:  because you know what the best sex for every individual is and how each individual should respond sexually? Right….

Post # 36
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Busy bee

I disagree with those who are saying this is just what you have to deal with living in an apt, let them do their thing, get over it, etc. I’ve heard close to nothing living in my apartment 8 months. I can admit I may be pretty lucky, and walls may be thinner in other complexes. But there is an acceptable level of noise that you should reasonably deal with and then there’s taking it too far. Generally, it should just be understood that there are quiet hours when you live so close to people, and I think most people are considerate enough to abide by that. Screaming after 10:00 PM is just like blasting music after 10:00 PM. I think most people have the common courtesy not to do that. Still, I would ask her very nicely to keep it down after the hour of 10:00 PM or whatever. Via note or in person. I think that’s the best way to alleviate the problem without making her angry or making it too awkward between the two of you.  

Post # 37
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Helper bee

newbabybee:  best sex for me is loud and expressive. None of that quiet crap lol! Leave that for valentine’s day… honeymoon

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

mrssocal:  I had this exact problem with out upstairs neighbours… I left an anonymous note forgot what it said but that was the last day I heard them. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

Well some people don’t know you can hear them. Others are assholes.

Slightly different situation, but for one year when I was in a dorm, my neighbor had her boyfriend over for the weekend pretty regularly. Of course we could hear them. It was so gross. It would usually be late at night. I mean sometimes at 2 AM. And then in the morning. The worst part was that after their 10 min. romp, she would giggle for 45 minutes straight. They woke us up so many times.

Finally I left a note on her door in the middle of the day saying we could here them. Before, we’d often knock and they’d stop but not always.

So then she left a note saying “Sorry I’m in college and have a sex life. Btw, it’s not quiet hours.” 

Of course I wasn’t talking about at that very moment, i was talking about it in general…because newsflash, people try to sleep at 3 AM on a school night. Either way, a fantastic reply of hers.

So I wrote back “I have a sex life too but I take it elsewhere etc…”

and then i overheard her getting all upset about it with her friends. it was pretty funny.

unfortunately that didn’t stop things for good. i should’ve just talked to my RA. you should talk to the manager. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing Beekeeper

mrssocal:  So 2-3 times a week, they have 2 hour sex sessions that result in 30 minutes of orgasmic screaming from the woman….? Can you give us an update if you happen to overhear them mention any nutritional supplements or topical ointments or anything like that? I’m not interested or anything, but someone else might be, so….. that’s all.

Post # 41
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Daisy_Mae:  bahhahahahaha! I might be interested in that info as well!

Post # 42
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Busy bee

Get ear plugs.  I use them every night and the world is dead to me until it’s time to wake up. Best purchase I ever made. 

Post # 43
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Busy bee

Buy a nice ball gag and pin it too thier door 

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Cape May, NJ

Girl she’s below you. If you can hear her I’m assuming she can also hear YOU. Have you ever considered that when youre having sex? You might want to leave a vague note that just refrences how late she’s being loud. You can’t control how loud she is during sex but maybe she can realize she’s being too loud too late. I’m SURE my neighbors have heard me before but I’m not going to hold back, I just try to be aware of the time. dont think of it as “ew I hear them having sex” but more about breaking quiet times in your complex. But then again she is landlord so it’s tricky.

 

And yea I’m side eying the judgement on loud sex and the idea to call police.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Get a carpet.

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