(Closed) I can not make a decision if my life depended on it!! Help!

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
679 posts
Busy bee

GIRL YOURE COMPLETELY NORMAL! I had a really rough time too and the ring I ended up with is completely different than what I thought I wanted. Initially, I wanted a 2 CT pear diamond in a pave white gold band. And honestly I was a bit of a brat. I told my Fiance my ring had to be at least 20k… Wtf was wrong with me? But I brought into the whole marketing. And then I saw morganites and wanted that because of how romantic it was, but then I started considering smaller stones because the huge pink was too much on my finger. But then I read about the softness of morganite and I’m very sentimental so I didn’t want to have to replace my stone ever so I had to cross that off the list. At some point, the pave started looking to be too much and I really simplified my ideal ring… But by that point I had been designing my ring in my head for near half a year and was frankly, sick of it. I wasn’t into diamonds anymore, just wanted a band. Started at looking at simple solitaires and loved the look. SO was stuck on getting me a diamond (traditional that way, I guess) but I really wanted color and budget friendly (no more “20k at least” brat)  so we agreed on a GIA K, which by the way, if you like warm colors, is SUCH a steal! The color drives the price down but color is really a subjective thing while inclusions and cut are not. Unless you hate colored stones and are very color sensitive. My ring in total was only about 3 grand which isn’t even a fourth of our original budget. Now we can put that money into our travels! But at the same time, this is a ring you’ll wear forever so I completely understand wanting to spend a lot of money on it (except if it makes you take on debt.) 

WHEW, so I now have a ring where the band is a completely different style and color from what I initially thought I wanted, the diamond is less than half the size of what I had initially looked at, I’ve gone back and forth in my mind between two stones, and I’m in LOVE. I’m just happy I have it on my fingers. I still like to ogle at other people’s rings but I’m never envious. Just happy for them and for me.  

Post # 17
827 posts
Busy bee

I wasn’t on the bee when we bought my engagement ring so I think that helped lol because you see SO many different and beautiful rings. I really didn’t even know there was that many choices. Where I live it seems like everyone getting engaged/married has a silver ring, princess cut diamond with a halo. I knew I did not want that, just not my style. I say start with what you KNOW you want. I knew I wanted yellow gold, I knew I wanted to a 1 carat diamond and would sacrifice color for that but not clarity or cut. I was pretty sold on a round diamond. So I went from there and did a lot of looking on the internet. We also looked in a lot of different stores but I didn’t care for that as much until we were really ready to buy because I felt a lot of pressure from sales people. Also, it was impossible to find anything in yellow gold EVERYTHING was silver. I found a setting on amazon (of all places) that I kept coming back to. I showed it to the jewlery store sales person that we ended up buying from and they had an almost identical setting. I loved it. We also had a very firm budget of $5,000 which we had in cash. I think that made the jewler know that we were serious about buying and helped us negotiate because we could say look I can pay in full right now. 

ETA: I was also realistic in that we may not be able to find a 1 carat in our price range with the setting I wanted so I would say not to be so set on what you want you blow your budget away or end up super disappointed. We actually did find a 1 carat in our budget with the setting I wanted which I attribute to us paying in cash that day and going to a non-chain jewlery store. The owner was there and cut us a great deal that I’m pretty sure just an employee wouldn’t have been able to do. We were young and he said something about young love and all that.

Post # 18
281 posts
Helper bee

I agree with saving rings you like on Pinterest or Etsy and see what trends you see. Narrow it down and get a few cheapies to try out. That’s what I did. I liked the look of asschers and cushion cuts but didn’t like how they looked on my finger. I tried an oval, and it may have just been the particular setting, but it kept getting caught on everything which super bugged me, and I that confirmed I wanted the low set bezel I had been looking at. Through we both are not super sentimental and neither cares if we change our ring. I sometimes wear my 3 stone and sometimes just a band or a silicone ring.

Search for Helzberg Diamond stores in your area and call to ask if they have moissanites in stock. That’s one of the chains that sells them.

Post # 22
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Home

I can never decide on stuff like that either, I would tell your SO to pick for you! If might be more meaningful and would take the pressure off! 

Post # 24
2879 posts
Sugar bee

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Soon2BMrsFredericks :  Heck, they give me their input and I talk about getting “my new ring” all the time so they won’t be surprised. Even if they were, or had something negative to say, I would tell them where to stick it. Lol

I tried eBay, Amazon, and a few other random websites until I found something that fit the bill and was the cheapest with shipping (usually eBay from China.) I was pretty specific with my design so I would google constantly. Phrases like “cubic zirconia halo Sterling silver ring” and either go to images or shopping. Also on eBay I would list from cheapest to most expensive so I wasn’t sorting through the expensive stuff wishing I could buy it. Lol! I don’t think I paid over $20 for any of them. It was worth it to be able to try it on, and now if I wanna wear them as a RHR I can. I was more worried about the size and shape of the center stone so I also ended up with a couple colored elongated cushions in a pretty pink and another in purple. You just have to have patience because if you don’t wanna spend much, it typically means overseas and slow cheap shipping. Lol

Good luck! 

Post # 25
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I was quite indecisive with the style at first; I knew what I didn’t like but not what I absolutely loved. But I picked the ring out with the fiance and his comments really helped narrow down everything.

Post # 26
280 posts
Helper bee

ME too!! I’m driving myself crazy because I love the Tiffany six prong but also love oval halos, wide set emerald cuts and sometimes bezel set stones. I’m totally a sparkle magpie…


Anyway, after about three years of considering I have settled on an Etsy seller who will set a OEC moissanite in a six prong Tiffant replica.

Post # 27
8 posts

I was between Oval and Pear, Halo or non, pave or plain band. I just kept looking at pictures and saved EVERYTHING I liked. Then slowly eliminated until I was down to two. Both were Oval pave band with no Halo… so that’s what I asked for :). Pick what YOU love.

Post # 28
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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marriedalready69 :  SPARKLE MAGPIE. I am so stealing that.

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