- 8 years ago
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have spoken often about marriage, weddings, and our impending engagement. It seems though, that lately we are discussing it more often and he has become more open about it. As we lay in bed last night we started discussing my birthday which is coming up in December.
I love my birthday. It is something I look forward to every year, it is a big year as I am turning 21 and for multiple reasons I have waiting a long time to be this age. Due to some issues in August Boyfriend or Best Friend has stopped drinking alcohol and will be sober for my birthday. This does upset me because we have always talked about when we will both be free to go out and enjoy being out with all of our friends. I was really excited to share this experiance with him and it does hurt my feelings that he will not be his typical “good time” self. I understand the reasonings behind this and have explained to him that I understand but it does not hurt my feelings any less. Right now I’m working on being supportive of his choices and all that he is going through at the moment.
Boyfriend or Best Friend then said to me “Isn’t it strange how God has a path laid out for everyone?” Now we are not overly religious but Boyfriend or Best Friend does take solace in his faith (he is more of believer than I am) and we often have conversations about a higher power and how it has affected our lives. As we discussed this he told me that had he not gone through those issues in August he would not be as eager to head to the altar as he is now. He told me he thinks this is the universes way of telling him to grow up. I was surprised at this and asked had it not happened if he would still keep me waiting into next year. He said yes (oh that would have been lovely). He also told me that we need to pick out my ring and get it purchased so we can move on with life. I told him that I wanted to meet with one more private jewler and if they did not have the information we were looking for then we could purchase my ring from where we found my favorite one.
It is such a strange feeling to realize that we are almost there. It is so close I can feel it and I am really surprised at home relaxed I am about it. I am really excited and I’m sure my level of excitement will only go up when we purchase my ring but I’m not freaking out yet. It is such a reassuring feeling that he is completely committed and totally ready to marry me. I asked him whether it would be in 2011 or 2012 and he is still set on 2012 which I am fine with. This is just so surreal that hopefully by the end of the year I will be engaged afte 3 1/2 years of dating and even though I know everything isn’t perfect I will always have this man by my side who is willing to work on it and that is more than I could ever ask for. I almost can’t believe this is really happening. When I started dating him he was the LAST person I ever thought I would marry.
When did you know that the waiting would be over soon? How did you handle knowing that he had the ring and the engagement was coming soon but not knowing when?
(Wow sorry that was way longer than intended!)