@Pinksapphire: Despite the fact that you feel noncommittal when it comes to making decisions, it does sound like you have made a lot of nice choices so far! 🙂 Keep going in that direction! These decisions do feel like big ones, though, believe me. I’ve had my share of deciding on one thing, and then changing my mind the next. I changed my colors and themes PROBABLY 15 times. And I’m counting those 15 as JUST the times I audibly proclaimed that “THESE are my wedding colors!”. LOL. But I think it is good to explore lots of options, don’t settle in on any one thing too soon. Allow yourself that time, especially now with still having nearly a year to plan. Up until the 6 month marker, you have lots of time to change your mind about the smaller details.
The venue, however, you will probably want to lock down, ESP if it’s a destination wedding, since guests will be wanting to make their reservations and plans a little bit ahead of time. Is there anyone you are bouncing your ideas off of as far as location? Are you able to visit any of them? (I know it is a Destination Wedding, but not sure how destination it is!). If you aren’t able to visit, maybe base your location on budget?
Speaking of budget, since you are 11 months out, now is the time to definitely block out a “budget discussion” with your Fiance, your FIL’s, and your own parents. I’m sure everyone will appreciate being in the know, and helping to allocate funds. It doesn’t have to be everyone in the same room at the same time, but you definitely should know who’s contributing what ahead of time! This may very possibly be leading to the indecision you’re feeling! How could you make a decision, or who to include in the decision, if you are unsure of who’s contributing monetarily?! 🙂 Definitely do yourself a favor, and knock that out ASAP. I bet you will sleep better at night immediately.
And about transporting the items: that will definitely be a lot to coordinate. Can you maybe inquire about having a local rental company in the area of your wedding set up those items for you? That way, you could return what is purchased, and put it toward a deposit on rentals. That might be easier, depending on how far you’re traveling! And it would create less anxiety for you! However, if you stick to the original plan, then just make sure you delegate to different people, who’s in charge of what. It sounds like you have a plan for that in order, which is great! All you can do at that point is just trust! 🙂
Best of luck with planning! Believe me, I’ve been through it ALL, so if you ever have any questions that I might be able to help you with, feel free to ask! 🙂