I can't be a mom because I can't afford the treatments.

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 151
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1453 posts
Bumble bee

daniellemc :  I was diagnosed awhile back with PCOS and my husband’s analysis came back borderline, so IUI was recommended.  I know how it feels to get that phone call and I’d like to say I’m sorry and I hope things go the way you desire in the future. 

Post # 153
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am not sure how it is insensitive to say people have sex once bam and have a baby. If you had sex once,bam go tpregnant and then had a baby(no CP or MC) why are you offended with what she said. I can see people being offended by the not deserving part of teh statement but people nowadays just want to be sensitive. They don’t even know what to be sensitive baout so they are upset at every single thing. This world is just full of softes, that’s teh kindest word I coudl think of

Post # 154
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

BeverlyGeese :  I adopted from the ACS in NYC. It cost me nothing. My daughter is wonderful, she’s 19 now, in college with straight A’s…adoption worked out beautifully.

Post # 155
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

TinderBoxx :  Great for you. I am sure things have changed in the last 19 years, however – and just by a quick glance at the ACS website they require: background checks, home studies, medical clearance. None of these things are free of cost to potential adoptive parents. And legal costs. ACS doesn’t cover those, and I guarantee there will be legal fees. They are standards put in place in nearly every US adoption program.

That isn’t the case with everyone, though. Adoption is not the solution to each individual’s parenting journey. Some couples don’t want to give up the dream of a biological child. Some worry over brining a child into their home that requires many additional needs (drug addicted born children, therapies, etc). While adoption is certainly a route that many are willing to take, just because it worked out beautifully for you absolutely does not mean it is the right thing for everyone else.

Post # 157
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200 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry you are going through this 🙁 I tried to conceive for a year and a half. My doctor did tests and found nothing wrong, but my cycles were very irregular. I could go three months without a period. I took Chlomid about 5 times without any luck, and my doctor recommended seeing a specialist about IUI or IVF.

Luckily, friends started telling me about acupuncture. I don’t know if you have looked into it, but I highly recommend it. My cycle regulated and I was pregnant after only six treatments! They says it typically takes around 5 months though. Although treatments are expensive, your insurance may cover all or a portion of them. It seems like doctors never mention acupuncture but it can be very helpful in avoiding the need for IUI and IVF, or helping to make those procedures more successful. If your insurance covers this, it’s definitely worth a try! 

 

Post # 159
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

daniellemc :  I’ve never heard of the femvue test but I’m curious why your RE thinks your chance of conceiving without medication are basically zero. Despite severe DOR, lining issues and MFI we were given a 1% chance on our own – and we did conceive. If you have pcos it is possible to still ovulate and catch the egg, of course would be harder if other issues are also involved. And if you need clomid or femara to induce ovulation, it might be as simple as that!

Post # 161
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

daniellemc :  Makes sense! I have a friend who has pcos and does not ovulate – she is currently pregnant with #2 and for both pregnancies they did only one round of clomid and got pregnant. Fingers crossed you have a similar journey!!

Post # 162
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2098 posts
Buzzing bee

daniellemc :  I’m sorry to hear this. Some states have laws requiring insruance to comver fertitliy. Would you consider moving? 

Post # 163
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356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

PCos with no ovulation is not an end all, there’s still hope! With medication many women go on to conceive and have healthy pregnancies! I myself have PCOS, and all it took was Metformin to get me to ovulate regularly. Some it will take more (maybe met combined with clomid or another type like that), but there is hope.

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