(Closed) I can’t be happy for her when she made my engagement hell…..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honeslty forget about her. remember that there is a guy standing up there with her and be happy for him. Push your focus on his happiness and forget the rivalry with her.

Post # 4
2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


Once you get to the wedding and start having a great time, you won’t care. You are a newlywed, enjoy it!

Post # 5
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ewww… she sounds awful.

Just stay focused on your husband and how happy you are together. He didn’t have to pop the question just because someone else did first…

Her actions make her look stupid and trust me, people notice it.

It’s hard to do but be the better person and will you be far happier because of it.

Post # 6
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sexisammy4u: Dont let her steal your thunder…. You have the man of your dreams and his brother is marrying one of the mean girls…..

Post # 7
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@StormyRose: +1

That’s what I would do. Focus everything on the brother, even though he made a dick move. Congratulate him, laugh with him, address him, and then look at her and tell her that she looks nice. lol

Post # 8
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Enjoy the fact that you’re well-adjusted enough to realize you’re being slightly irrational and, as you point out, childish. You recognize this behavior and are taking positive steps to overcome it, whereas she was insecure and petty enough to go ahead and seek attention at your expense. Her actions came across as pathetic. You will come across as gracious.

Sometimes being the bigger person really is its own reward. 🙂

Post # 9
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@sexisammy4u: Have a few drinks at the party and have fun. Honestly, when guys are pressured into marriage by their mothers instead of on their own, I can only imagine the resentment that must build up inside them. Just remember your man didnt need his mom/someone elses engagement to push him to make him put a ring on it. 

Post # 11
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Bring your wedding album to her wedding 😉

I’m just teasing, but wouldn’t that be funny as all heck.

Post # 12
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree, forget about her.  At this point you are only hurting yourself by dwelling on it.

And honestly, remember- nobody cares as much about a wedding as the bride does about her own wedding.  It’s one day that you’ll have to suck it up and live with it, but soon after that, most people will stop talking about wedding related things and life goes back to normal.  If she truly is that kind of girl, she will probably be known by the family as that kind of girl.

Post # 13
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I totally agree with @linguo42.  Enjoy the time with your in-laws, and be as sweet and charming as she failed to be. Be polite to her but keep your distance, and if you start to feel petty or jealous, take comfort in the fact that by restraining yourself you’re making your new husband proud and saving him from the embarrassment his brother must have felt.

In short, let her enjoy the spotlight she’s craved so desperately, and focus on being the gracious, mature woman your husband fell in love with.

Post # 13
11 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

At least they didn’t put their wedding in front of yours though But do know how you feel. Take pleasure in knowing she is jealous of you and probably always will be.

Post # 14
824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

When you go through the receiving line, do not be rude but don’t congratulate her either. Act like she isn’t there. Not rude, but of course you are not going to act as if she hadn’t been a jerk to you. 

Post # 15
7357 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

This thread’is 4 years old. I think the OP’s receiving line is long gone  by.

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