Post # 1
After Darling Husband proposed to me, his bro proposed to his gf two days later. He clearly did it because he knew his mom would start pressuring him since he is the oldest. Anyway, my entire engagement, she made my life hell. Everything I wrote on Facebook about the wedding, she one uped me. She didnt attend my bridal shower and pouted at me engagement party. Totally immature. Now their wedding is coming up in 2 weeks and I cant be happy for her. AND I am a little jealous, I’ll admit. But only because I just got married not too long ago and never really got to have “my time” since she stole the spotlight on our engagement. So can you ladies help me to feel just a little less jealous and a little more positive about attending their wedding? I know I am acting childish but I just can’t help it 🙁
Post # 3
Honeslty forget about her. remember that there is a guy standing up there with her and be happy for him. Push your focus on his happiness and forget the rivalry with her.
Post # 4
Once you get to the wedding and start having a great time, you won’t care. You are a newlywed, enjoy it!
Post # 5
Ewww… she sounds awful.
Just stay focused on your husband and how happy you are together. He didn’t have to pop the question just because someone else did first…
Her actions make her look stupid and trust me, people notice it.
It’s hard to do but be the better person and will you be far happier because of it.
Post # 6
@sexisammy4u: Dont let her steal your thunder…. You have the man of your dreams and his brother is marrying one of the mean girls…..
Post # 7
That’s what I would do. Focus everything on the brother, even though he made a dick move. Congratulate him, laugh with him, address him, and then look at her and tell her that she looks nice. lol
Post # 8
Enjoy the fact that you’re well-adjusted enough to realize you’re being slightly irrational and, as you point out, childish. You recognize this behavior and are taking positive steps to overcome it, whereas she was insecure and petty enough to go ahead and seek attention at your expense. Her actions came across as pathetic. You will come across as gracious.
Sometimes being the bigger person really is its own reward. 🙂
Post # 9
@sexisammy4u: Have a few drinks at the party and have fun. Honestly, when guys are pressured into marriage by their mothers instead of on their own, I can only imagine the resentment that must build up inside them. Just remember your man didnt need his mom/someone elses engagement to push him to make him put a ring on it.
Post # 11
Bring your wedding album to her wedding 😉
I’m just teasing, but wouldn’t that be funny as all heck.
Post # 12
I agree, forget about her. At this point you are only hurting yourself by dwelling on it.
And honestly, remember- nobody cares as much about a wedding as the bride does about her own wedding. It’s one day that you’ll have to suck it up and live with it, but soon after that, most people will stop talking about wedding related things and life goes back to normal. If she truly is that kind of girl, she will probably be known by the family as that kind of girl.
Post # 13
I totally agree with @linguo42. Enjoy the time with your in-laws, and be as sweet and charming as she failed to be. Be polite to her but keep your distance, and if you start to feel petty or jealous, take comfort in the fact that by restraining yourself you’re making your new husband proud and saving him from the embarrassment his brother must have felt.
In short, let her enjoy the spotlight she’s craved so desperately, and focus on being the gracious, mature woman your husband fell in love with.
Post # 13
At least they didn’t put their wedding in front of yours though But do know how you feel. Take pleasure in knowing she is jealous of you and probably always will be.
Post # 14
When you go through the receiving line, do not be rude but don’t congratulate her either. Act like she isn’t there. Not rude, but of course you are not going to act as if she hadn’t been a jerk to you.
Post # 15
This thread’is 4 years old. I think the OP’s receiving line is long gone by.