(Closed) I can't believe it happened to me!!!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I love your ring, for starters.  It’s so unique and gorgeous, and it’s one I’ve admired on these boards before.  What the woman said was rude.  It’s always rude to ask if something is real, the same way it’s rude to ask if someone’s breasts are natural, or their teeth natural, or their children legitimate.  There’s never any good reason to socially inquire after the origin of something, especially not if you aren’t already really close.  That was uncalled for.  Your ring is beautiful, it’s real because it’s a real damn engagement ring.  And she probably couldn’t figure out what else to ask, especially if she wanted to know if it was an engagement ring, and ran straight for tacky.  People do.  It’s unfortunate, but they do.

Post # 4
781 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I personally haven’t had that happen, but I just wanted to say that I think your ring is GORGEOUS. I don’t think it looks like a diamond either.. maybe she had bad eyesight lol.

Post # 5
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it’s always rude to ask someone if their ring is “real.” But it’s possible that sweat she meant wasn’t “is that a diamond?” Maybe she meant is it a real stone, as opposed to costume jewelry Or plastic or something. Lots of people don’t know what moonstone is so its possible she just didn’t know it was a real stone, because moonstone really only looks like moonstone, and nothing else.  I don’t really think it looks like a diamond at all. It’s also possible that she knew it wasn’t a diamond, but couldn’t figure out what it was, and didn’t know how to ask what kind of stone it was. 


Beautiful ring, btw! I love moonstone! It’s so whimsical!

Post # 7
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@BrieBrieGorGor:  that is a very unique looking stone.  i am not sure if i’ve ever seen one before.  very interesting cut.  it’s beautiful.

i think i may have been asked if my ring was real once or twice by younger girls.  it is obviously a diamond.  since i now wear my wbands, no one has asked but it has looked like they wanted to but didn’t.  they were curiously looking if you know what i mean.

Post # 9
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BrieBrieGorGor:  I read back over my comment and just want to say that I definitely do NOT think your ring looks fake or like costume jewelry, I think it’s awesome! I just know a lot of people get confused when they see an e ring that isn’t a clear stone. I didn’t mean to imply that your ring looked like costume jewelry 

Post # 12
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

she probably meant is it a real stone, not is it a real diamond.  It clearly doesn’t look like a diamond.  It’s a very unique looking stone so I’m sure she wanted to know if it was something that was natural or if it was high end costume jewelry.  I don’t see anything to be offended about.  On the contrary she seems to really like your ring.

Post # 13
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


I don’t think she was trying to be rude, I think she doesn’t have much knowledge on gemstones and was trying to ask what your stone was without being too obvious.

Post # 14
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Your ring is absolutely gorgeous!

I have had this happen quite frequently! 🙁

We were engaged last month, and my Fiance knows how absolutely picky I am, and wanted me to choose my own perfect ring.  He didn’t want to propose without a ring, so I suggested that when he was ready he could buy a cheap cheap ring to propose with and then we’d be able to design one together and have it custom made. So when the time came, he sort of did as I suggested, only he didn’t purchase the cheap cheap ring I asked for! Instead he bought me a gorgeous gorgeous ring still in white gold but CZ instead of diamond, and squirreled away a decent amount of savings to spend on a custom made. He did a fantastic job, and I loveeeeee my interim ring. It is so so sparkly, and massive.

I contemplated not telling anyone that this was an interim ring, because honestly, what business is it of theirs?! But I know how females can be, so I thought I’d offer the information first because I didn’t want bitchy remarks once I changed rings. I’m looking at getting a much smaller centre stones (it’s got three main stones and 9 stones in total) because although I love my ring, it’s just too large. My boy likes some bling!

We were overseas when we got engaged, and when we first got back to work everyone would request to see the ring however once they realised it was an interim all of a sudden they weren’t interested in looking at it anymore?

Also, and this has happened numerous times, someone who hasn’t seen it yet will come by and ask to see the ring, and I’ve had a couple of colleagues “in the know” pipe up and yell out “it isn’t real” or “it’s not her REAL ring”.

Honestly?! What business is it of theirs? And I can assure you, it is a real thing. I can see it and feel it on my finger, and I know what it symbolises and the real meaning that it has between me and my gorgeous man.

Trust me ladies, real as real can be!

Post # 15
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve never been asked this, but I’m a total smartass and would take the term ‘real’ literally and probably say something like, “No, it’s a figment of your imagination, not real at all.” Then walk away leaving them confused figuring out what you meant, haha. 

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