Post # 1
So today I went to go pick up our dry cleaning; this was our first time using this new place. We live in a very affluant area and the woman behind the counter seemed nice, not the classiest, but also not what I would consider low class. I’m standing there waiting for her to pull up my order and she says “Wow that’s a beautiful ring! Is it real?” I was so shocked! I said “Yes, it’s a moonstone” I thought maybe she thought it was a diamond?? But she didn’t have the normal “disappointed” response most people seem to describe when someone thinks they have a diamond and finds out it’s not.
I don’t understand how anyone who’s ever seen a diamond could mistake my blue and purple engagement ring for one… Even though it’s high quality moonstone, it is still included and has a somewhat hazy appearance. I’m even more surprised because as I said we live in an upscale neighborhood and I figured 2 ct rings are common place here and the suit I was picking up for my fiance (which I dropped off to the same woman yesterday) is very expensive. My only other explanation is that I’m young, tattooed and pierced and she doesn’t know much about gems in general and just thought big = super expensive? My ring wasn’t cheap, but it definitely was even close to what a 2 ct diamond would cost.
I always thought “How rude” when I would read someone write a post about people asking if their ring is real, but now that I’ve experienced it really is SO rude!! My fiance was shocked too when I told him. I love my ring and I purposely got something that looks nothing like a diamond so the fact that I got a comment like this baffles me.
I found it amusing and shocking all at the same time. Just curious for any of you bees who obviously have a colored gemstone ering, has anyone asked if it’s a diamond or real?
Here’s a pic of my ring so you can all share in my confusion haha!
(Now to be fair, it doesn’t always look this colorful, but in any lighting it definitely has a blue/purple sheen and due to the rose cut doesn’t sparkle like a diamond at all.)
Post # 3
I love your ring, for starters. It’s so unique and gorgeous, and it’s one I’ve admired on these boards before. What the woman said was rude. It’s always rude to ask if something is real, the same way it’s rude to ask if someone’s breasts are natural, or their teeth natural, or their children legitimate. There’s never any good reason to socially inquire after the origin of something, especially not if you aren’t already really close. That was uncalled for. Your ring is beautiful, it’s real because it’s a real damn engagement ring. And she probably couldn’t figure out what else to ask, especially if she wanted to know if it was an engagement ring, and ran straight for tacky. People do. It’s unfortunate, but they do.
Post # 4
I personally haven’t had that happen, but I just wanted to say that I think your ring is GORGEOUS. I don’t think it looks like a diamond either.. maybe she had bad eyesight lol.
Post # 5
I think it’s always rude to ask someone if their ring is “real.” But it’s possible that sweat she meant wasn’t “is that a diamond?” Maybe she meant is it a real stone, as opposed to costume jewelry Or plastic or something. Lots of people don’t know what moonstone is so its possible she just didn’t know it was a real stone, because moonstone really only looks like moonstone, and nothing else. I don’t really think it looks like a diamond at all. It’s also possible that she knew it wasn’t a diamond, but couldn’t figure out what it was, and didn’t know how to ask what kind of stone it was.
Beautiful ring, btw! I love moonstone! It’s so whimsical!
Post # 6
@BrieBrieGorGor: ohhh I love how dreamy you ring looks like. So pretty!
Post # 7
@BrieBrieGorGor: that is a very unique looking stone. i am not sure if i’ve ever seen one before. very interesting cut. it’s beautiful.
i think i may have been asked if my ring was real once or twice by younger girls. it is obviously a diamond. since i now wear my wbands, no one has asked but it has looked like they wanted to but didn’t. they were curiously looking if you know what i mean.
Post # 8
@mistress_anne: Thank you so much! I know, I just can’t believe how rude some people are lol. I wouldn’t ask if a ring was real even if the woman next to me was wearing a 5 ct stone and a trash bag. Hahaha your tacky comment was great! Ya maybe that’s what she was trying to figure out?? I didn’t think that maybe she meant real engagement ring… Could be!
@ThinkingOutLoud: LOL! Thank you! :]
@LilliePad: Thank you very much! Ya you’re right maybe she did think it is costume jewelery, I know it definitely doesn’t look traditional by any means. I guess ’cause I’m one of those people who always assumes a ring on the left hand finger is an engagement ring or promise ring; I didn’t think that’s what she meant, but definitely could be!
@Scar_cats_tic: Thank you so much!
@mypinkshoes: It is really different huh? That’s why I was surprised at her question lol. Funny you mention wearing your diamond with your bands. As I was driving home I started to wonder if she would have asked if I had it paired with my wedding band, which is a diamond eternity band. (Still have about 4 1/2 months until I can wear it every day!)
Post # 9
@BrieBrieGorGor: I read back over my comment and just want to say that I definitely do NOT think your ring looks fake or like costume jewelry, I think it’s awesome! I just know a lot of people get confused when they see an e ring that isn’t a clear stone. I didn’t mean to imply that your ring looked like costume jewelry
Post # 10
@LilliePad: Oh I know! Haha I could tell you didn’t mean it in a negative way at all. No offense taken :] I totally see how someone who doesn’t know what moonstone is could think that.
My parents were jewelers and sometimes I forget the advantage I have over the general public lol. Like to me, moonstone is totally common; I never really think of it as anything out of the ordinary.
Post # 12
she probably meant is it a real stone, not is it a real diamond. It clearly doesn’t look like a diamond. It’s a very unique looking stone so I’m sure she wanted to know if it was something that was natural or if it was high end costume jewelry. I don’t see anything to be offended about. On the contrary she seems to really like your ring.
Post # 13
OH MY GOSH YOUR RING IS SO BEAUTIFUL!!! I love moonstone…
I don’t think she was trying to be rude, I think she doesn’t have much knowledge on gemstones and was trying to ask what your stone was without being too obvious.
Post # 14
Your ring is absolutely gorgeous!
I have had this happen quite frequently! 🙁
We were engaged last month, and my Fiance knows how absolutely picky I am, and wanted me to choose my own perfect ring. He didn’t want to propose without a ring, so I suggested that when he was ready he could buy a cheap cheap ring to propose with and then we’d be able to design one together and have it custom made. So when the time came, he sort of did as I suggested, only he didn’t purchase the cheap cheap ring I asked for! Instead he bought me a gorgeous gorgeous ring still in white gold but CZ instead of diamond, and squirreled away a decent amount of savings to spend on a custom made. He did a fantastic job, and I loveeeeee my interim ring. It is so so sparkly, and massive.
I contemplated not telling anyone that this was an interim ring, because honestly, what business is it of theirs?! But I know how females can be, so I thought I’d offer the information first because I didn’t want bitchy remarks once I changed rings. I’m looking at getting a much smaller centre stones (it’s got three main stones and 9 stones in total) because although I love my ring, it’s just too large. My boy likes some bling!
We were overseas when we got engaged, and when we first got back to work everyone would request to see the ring however once they realised it was an interim all of a sudden they weren’t interested in looking at it anymore?
Also, and this has happened numerous times, someone who hasn’t seen it yet will come by and ask to see the ring, and I’ve had a couple of colleagues “in the know” pipe up and yell out “it isn’t real” or “it’s not her REAL ring”.
Honestly?! What business is it of theirs? And I can assure you, it is a real thing. I can see it and feel it on my finger, and I know what it symbolises and the real meaning that it has between me and my gorgeous man.
Trust me ladies, real as real can be!
Post # 15
I’ve never been asked this, but I’m a total smartass and would take the term ‘real’ literally and probably say something like, “No, it’s a figment of your imagination, not real at all.” Then walk away leaving them confused figuring out what you meant, haha.
Post # 16
@Wonderstruck: Haha! I don’t blame you.
@xoCATox: Ya I don’t know why some women care so much about what another women has?? I might be wrong for this, but it seems women who have smaller diamonds or aren’t engaged tend to judge more harshly. Which is strange… That was this case with this woman, no ering or wedding band on her finger.
Now that other Bees have spoken I am wondering if she meant real ering or real stone because it looks so different. I’m over it! Just threw me off is all!
@kayrie95: Thank you! Ya I think that too now. All my fiance and I could think of at first was 1. She thought it was fake moonstone?? LOL and 2. She thought it was a weird diamond? But now I totally think she meant “is that a natural stone?” which I have no issues with. I can totally understand how someone would ask that question as it doesn’t look like what most people usually see on the left hand finger.
@Meowkers: Yup I think so too, I didn’t think about it that way at first. Thanks for your help!