(Closed) I can’t believe my sister just said this…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i don’t see her asking if she can buy your dress. maybe she was just curious to see what it looks like on her.

Post # 4
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee

Don’t reply.  It won’t be good.  If she does push the issue tell her you are uncomfortable wearing your dress.  Although it would be lovely and budget friendly if you were gracious enough to lend her yours to wear at her wedding (which I might add is NONEXISTENT).  So strange.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Jerseygirl23:  Um…no, I don’t see it as her asking to buy your wedding gown, just complimenting you on it.  But…if you’re wedding is over why do you care what gown she wears?  Surely you know that you’re not the only bride to ever wear “your” gown?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Well that’s just not ok, regardless of when you got married.  I would brush it off, laugh and say something about how you know it’s beautiful because you chose it for your dress!  I wouldn’t worry about her wanting to buy it, especially with no proposal as of yet. If she does actually want it, that’s just rude of her.  Hopefully by the time she gets engaged and trying on dresses for real, your dress will be discontinued or something! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think perhaps she was just complimenting your taste?  Unless you know for a fact that’s she’s shopping with a view toward buying, I wouldn’t respond in a way that indicates your dress is off-limits.

(I mean, it is.  Just maybe it’s better not to start a fight that doesn’t need to happen.)

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery- try to take it as a compliment.  It seems highly unlikely that she would actually buy the same dress.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Jerseygirl23:

Hang in there and see if she replies back again. Like PP said, I think you’re safe because she’s not even engaged yet !

 

@lisa105:

Surely you don’t mean to say that her sister should wear the exact same dress? I dunno, it’s kind of a like an unspoken rule if you ask me. Like not sleeping with your sister’s ex boyfriend !

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t stress about it. There are a lot of IFs here, IF she gets engaged to this guy, IF she buys the same dress of you…then she’ll just look like a big copy-cat, especially since your family has already seen it.

I’m not sure why she’d want the same dress unless maybe she’s thinking she’d ask if she could wear yours. Then that might be kind of nice. I’d take it as a compliment to your good taste more than anything, since your wedding is over.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

1. Take a nice deep breath.

2. Remember that she’s not engaged, so by the time, if ever, she does have a wedding, there will be a huge buffer chunk of time between your wedding and hers.

3. Realize that only your closest girl friends will remember anything about your dress other than the basic shape and that it was white, so even if she does, on that distant possible day, end up in the same dress, people are very unlikely to notice.

4. Take another deep breath.

5. Let it go and enjoy being married.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@ItalianLady: Yes, I think she meant the exact same dress, as in the OP would lend the sister her dress.  I would agree that it would be weird for her sister to buy the dress, but I don’t see a problem with sisters sharing a wedding gown, if they were both cool with that.  Obviously the OP wouldn’t be cool with that in this situation, but I can see how it could work.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

No problem. 🙂

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