(Closed) I can't believe she asked me that!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

ugh some people are so clueless.  Sorry she hurt your feelings 🙁  Maybe it was the style shirt you were wearing, or were you buying anything baby-ish?

Post # 4
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s not time to up the ante. It’s time to realise that people are stupid. Nobody should ever ask anyone that question, ever!!

My mom once asked a woman who wasn’t pregnant how far along she was. Fortunately she just laughed and said “oh, about 4 chocolate cakes”.

Post # 5
1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

How did she not get the clue when you said “first what?” ??????????????? Some people are too clueless to worry about. And how RUDE to ask about your marital status! Some people should really not be allowed to talk.

Post # 6
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

People are just rude. It’s not time to up any antes. Although I’m 6 ft tall, I weigh quite a bit more than you do and I don’t think that I look pregnant. You would think another woman would be more sensitive about something like this! (A man saying something stupid, is kinf of expected- but it seems men never venture into this type of comment lol).   I wouldn’t ever ask someone how far along they were, or if it were their first child- even if they seem obviously pregnant- they could have a medical condition or something. I would be ashamed if they weren’t pregnant.

Post # 7
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL

My weight has gone up and down my whole life. At my heaviest I was 220 lbs and I’m 5’7.I could stand to lose a few lbs befroe the wedding, but right now I’m about 170.

Way back when I was working as a legal asst, a maintenance man asked me, “is it a boy or a girl?” and I had no idea what he was talking about. The he pointed to his own belly and made the “rounded” motion. I cheerfully said, “Oh Honey, I’m not pregnant, I’m just fat!” and laughed and walked way. Needless to say, he was MORTIFIED.

But in his defense, I was not wearing the most flattering blouse and I did look like was my 3rd trimester!

Post # 8
365 posts
Helper bee

I’m 5’8″ and 120lbs. I gained 20lbs a few years back and people started asking me when my due date was. I was so pissed. I’m so self concious about right clothing now that it’s not even funny!

Post # 9
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

omg, I’m so sorry that happened to you! What a beezy!

Post # 10
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

This happened to me once, I got laser hair removal and was waiting for my appointment when a lady quite alarmed started saying: “you’re pregnant?! you shouldn’t get laser if you’re pregnant it’ll hurt the baby!”.

I didn’t know if laugh or cry, seriously! I’m not skinny but that was a time when I was feeling quite comfortable with my body and that was a low blow, but you have to realize some people just don’t know what they’re talking about, she might have see you in an odd angle or something. Don’t think about it!

Post # 11
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I had an older woman mention something about people sending me out for beer “in my condition”. I am overweight, but there’s a difference in pregnancy weight gain and just being overweight (at least from what I’ve seen). I felt so good about myself that day too until that happened.

Some people just don’t have a filter anymore.

Post # 13
10573 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

You should have responded Nope!  You’ve been pooping your whole life!

Post # 15
5405 posts
Bee Keeper

Maybe it’s a good thing. Like I would think if you were really large overall it would be really obvious you aren’t pregnant whereasp you must only have a very small belly so she thought any fat stuck out on your otherwise fit body? Idk sounds kinda crazy but makes sense in my head lol. 

Post # 16
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@BlondeMissMolly:  That is a great way to look at it!

This happened to me, too. I was at a reception of a high school friend’s. There was no assigned seating (which, this experience definitely made me want to assign tables for ours). We got there a bit late, and were seated with an older couple of my friend’s parents. We were talking and things were going nicely. Then, the woman asked me about my due date. I was mortified, and my Fiance laughed. I stammered, saying I wasn’t pregnant. She tried to cover up her faux pas, but to no avail. Soon after that, we ended up leaving. I think I was more upset with my Fiance laughing, but in hindsight, it was a nervous laugh, because he knew I wasn’t going to react kindly.

It does sting :-(. I used it as some motivation to lose a bit more weight. I’m back at my heaviest ever, so I’m trying to get serious about things.

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