Post # 1
Today, at work a coworker asked to see my ring. I showed her. Afterall I just got engaged a few days ago.
She commented “That’s a large ring for a large girl!” in a very snarky, sarcastic manor. At first, i wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt that she probably didnt mean it how it sounded or misspoke. But its been grinding on me ALL DAY! i think she meant exactly what she said. I do take things to heart to easily sometimes so i was trying to get past this but i just want to cry.
I’m overweight. I’m working on that. I’m also working on my self esteem. But u don’t understand why someone would say that!
Post # 2
Weddings and engagements bring out the best and worst in people. She sounds like a jealous, mean lady. Don’t waste your time and energy giving her a second thought!
Post # 3
It was definitely a rude thing to say; however, by letting it get to you, you’re only giving her what she wants. Don’t allow her words to hold power over you. You are beautiful. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. Congrats on your engagement!
Post # 4
People say things like that because they are 1. mean and want to hurt your feelings/feel better about themselves by putting you down or 2. thoughtless and she’s been regretting it ever since. If you know her well enough you can probably make an accurate guess as to which of the two it is in this specific case. So she’s either mean or thoughtless. IMO thoughtless is forgiveable, mean = avoid her as much as possible in the future because why interact with someone who is mean? No matter what, her words are a reflection of HER, not a reflection of you.
Post # 5
Oh wow…. that’s just mean. You should tell your(her) boss. It’s really not OK.
Eitehr way, I am sure both you and your ring are gorgeous, she’s probably just jealous. But that doesn’t justify her bad manners.
Post # 6
She’s just a mean cow. Ignore her.
Post # 7
Wow. I have been known to put my foot in my mouth once in a while, ok more than once in a while, but the fact she didnt suddenly seem embarrassed tells you right there it wasn’t an accident. I am so sorry. Totally not appropriate (or nice!).
Post # 8
You can lose weight, but she is ugly on the inside. Forget that bitch.
Post # 9
What an asshole! Is SHE married or engaged?
I *had* a friend that was baffled by the fact that she thought she was WAY prettier than me, yet I had a boyfriend (now fiance) and she was single…I think it made her feel better to belittle things he gave me…at the end of the day – I had the great guy (and the stuff) and she had her shitty attitude and her vibrator…
Post # 10
She’s one of those people that comments about people of certain weights or with certain figures wearing leggings/skirts etc
I’m just so hurt. I’m trying not to let it bother me.
Post # 12
Honestly, it would have been better coming from you in the moment that it happened, but if it still really bothers you, I would confront her about it. Tell her you didn’t appreciate her snark and that it wasn’t a kind thing to say. Other than that, the next time she says something rude or snarky, call her out on it. People like that are just assholes.
Post # 13
What a jerk! Honestly, people who have anything to say about someone else’s weight project the worst of their judgment onto themselves, placing their own self-worth in their dress size and usually feeling terrible about themselves. She sounds miserable and bitter. Don’t let her steal your joy! Your ring is so big, it’s making her SICK!
Post # 14
This lady is an asshole with major issues. Keep that in mind when you go home tonight and see your awesome fiancé and she goes home to whatever misery awaits her. Her comment seems like it is about you but it really isn’t.
Post # 15
What a meanie! She needs to know that a normal response is “ooh pretty! Congrats!”
I’ll say it instead, I’m sure your ring (and you!) are gorgeous and CONGRATULATIONS!! 😊