Post # 1
I will admit from the get go this is a rant but I am so hurt, so shocked … I really can’t believe a friend would be this rude.
I was recently at another friends wedding and even though I tried to down play my new engagement (after all this was her day not mine) people kept asking me for details about our up coming wedding. At one point a group of friends were all standing together and somene asked us if we set a date yet. I told them “Yes , Friday December 2nd”. One guy says to the whole group “What’s the deal you don’t want anyone to come. You’re really going to ask people to take time off work just because you are getting married?” I was almost in tears right on the spot. Thank goodness my Fiance came to my rescue and said “The people that matter will be there”. I have been to three weddings in the past few years that were on Fridays. I never once questioned taking time off work for them. I wanted to get married on a Saturday but the venue we wanted was booked solid every Saturday and Sunday until May of 2012. We live in Texas it starts to get hot then and this is an open air chapel. I didn’t want my guests or my self to be roasting in 100 + weather at an open air wedding and reception.
Am I wrong for having a Friday wedding??? Am I wrong for being hurt??? Fiance did tell me if you invite that jerk I am not coming. LOL Thank goodnes my guy always has by back. Any one else getting flack for the wedding date choice. I have also had people ask me why December??? Duh !!! My dollar I get to pick the date… Eeeck am i turning into a Bridezilla??? Say it aint so …
Post # 3
No one gave me any problems. In fact, my anniversary is tomorrow… Meaning last year our wedding was on a Friday. People still came and still had fun. He was just being a rude jackhole. Friday weddings are becoming super common.
Post # 4
that is so rude! ugh! good thing your Fiance had the right answer! ha!
Post # 5
Your fiance said the right thing “The people that matter will be there.”
Post # 6
Sometimes people are ignorant and use the little voice inside outside. Ignore him, I’ve dealt with a few rude comments since starting. Some people have no common sense!
I’m sure you’re day will be perfect!
Post # 7
Sounds like you fortunately will not have to deal with THAT person on your wedding day- kudos =)
Friday weddings are SO MUCH BETTER imo. It still gives everyone their whole weekend to do what they wanted- and really who doesn’t want an excuse to be off work on a friday? I would have done a friday but my FI’s dad is a cardiac surgeon and absolutely cannot take a friday off- I really do love the idea of going to a wedding without it taking up the majority of the weekend tho.
Post # 7
@december bride: your not wrong to have it on a friday, but your wrong to be “amost in tears” about it…although the guy was completley out of line to say it….what did you think was oging to happen when youhad it on a friday? Im sure EVERYONE who has a wedding on a weekday gets some kind of response like this…
My friend got marrie on a thursday as it was cheaper and (not to her face..) I was like “whaaaaatttttt” and i contemplated if i could come or not….I ended up dressing in my best and worked all day and then took the bus from work to the wedding…your husband is right though…those that matter will be there….but you have to remember people are going to have to take a day (or more) of work to attend it, so people are going to say stuff. I wouldnt be so sensitive.
Post # 8
Thank goodness for all you Bee Buddies!! I was starting to feel like I was being selfish. I read another post about a different subject and the Bee said “I want my wedding to be a reflection of me, and I don’t want to look like I am selfish.” It really got me thinking about his comment. Thank you !!!
Post # 9
I completely agree with BaileyH. Yes, it was rude of him to say that, but some people just say the first thing that comes into their heads without thinking. Especially if there is alcohol involved (like at someone’s else’s wedding reception). I know your feelings were hurt but it would really help you to try and take other’s people’s words with a grain of salt.
Post # 10
In the past 5 plus years I have been to as many weddings on a Friday as I have on a Saturday. That dude was a tactless jerk, and your Fiance was awesome.
Post # 11
Ha ha – not the first time I have been told I am a bit over sensative. Good point girls! There is much to be said about the consumption of alcohol and what we say to people and how we react to what is said. I really appreciate your honesty and you pegged me – over sensitive.
Post # 12
Don’t worry! We’re having a Friday wedding and we are in November, so around the holidays just like you. I figure the people that are really excited about it in the first place are going to make it happen whether or not they have to take off work.
Post # 13
My upcoming wedding is also on a friday. The last wedding I attended was on a Friday. Its growing in popularity and your Fiance is right the people who want to be there and who matter will be there. Period. I think it was rude of him to say that, but people are rude. Dont be hurt it is what it is. People can have their opinion, but it doesnt mean they are right 😉
Post # 14
I am so glad your Fiance came to your rescue because that guy is a jerk face lol. Who says things like that?
Post # 15
@december bride: His comment was quite rude and thoughtless. Perhaps he isn’t willing to take time off work to attend the wedding of a friend but I know a lot of people (including myself) that are.
I am having a Friday wedding and I am looking forward to it! Not only will it reduce the guest list a little but we will have all weekend afterwards to enjoy our families (plus who doesn’t like saving a ton of money!?!). We have only had one person (FI’s grandmother) complain and she doesn’t even work/is retired so her whines are irrelevant.
Don’t take it to heart, atleast you know you don’t have to invite him since it is obviously too much to ask. 😉