(Closed) I can’t believe the words came out of my mouth!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think there’s a point where every bride is pretty much over wedding planning. Just try to remember it will all be over soon! I definitely got burnt out around four months away but taking a break from planning really helped.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not at all. Actually its so common for brides to feel overwhelmed and want the wedding to finally be over with. Any bee on here will tell you that! I have told my Fiance many many times that I cant wait for the ” stupid ” wedding to be over and done with, and he always says the same. Honestly we really dont care to  much for the weddin but were celebrating for those in our lives and thats all. You said nothing wrong, your just over whelmed. Take a deep breath and relax for a while. Step back from wedding planning for just a day or two and have some ” Me ” time. Dont pressure yourself over the wedding as well, take each day by day ๐Ÿ™‚ good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Take a break and don’t feel bad about it.  ๐Ÿ™‚  It’s normal and I think that most of us on the ‘Bee can completely sympathize.

Regarding the rehearsal dinner- I had this happen as well (granted it was more than four months out, but still) and I had a complete meltdown.  It took me awhile to get over the fact that my in laws didn’t realise that I had a lot going on with planning the reception and that planning the dinner (as in, they gave us a budget but wanted us to do everything else) was just way too much.  It was very generous of them but…yeah.  So, I asked my Darling Husband to take over the planning of the dinner.  I went with him to see one venue, but he handled all the emails, was the contact that night, etc.  Would this work for you?  Tell him to deal with his parents.  You can’t be responsible for planning both.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Take a whole week where no one talks wedding, go out on dates, do fun NON WEDDING related things, and just forget about planning for that one week.  It’ll feel so much better ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

If it helps, men usually like premarital counseling much more that they expect. I’ve been through it with two different men, who are both very different from each other, and the first was dreading it and loved it; the second was indifferent and loved it. Both thought we’d have to talk a lot about God and our views on religion and the church and all that, and really, Christianity only came up whe we planned the actual ceremony. Mostly, it was just the minister getting to know us and making sure that we really knew each other and had taled about things like how to share finances and whether we want children, etc.

It’s kind of a nice experience.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@Mars62312:  It’s pretty early for a first fitting. You could easily put that off for another 2 months if that helps you take some time off.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Um yeah. I just about had a nervous breakdown last week. The hardest thing for me has been needing other people to do things and them NOT DOING THEM. Honestly, I feel best when I can take three or four hours and knock multiple things off my ‘to-do’ list. It makes me feel like I’m in control and no matter what anyone else does/says I can keep my shit together and even if my bridesmaids are naked on the day because they couldn’t get their dress order in, I will be dressed, ready, and calm.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aw, I feel that way sometimes. Mostly because I never anticipated all the little details and the decisions on stuff I don’t really care about. This morning I hung out with my mom for a bit, and we talked some about the wedding. In the back of my head, even though the thought is ridiculous, I was thinking “what am I going to talk to people about when this is over?” Which is so sad… :

It’ll be OK!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t enjoy my planning much because of the financial stress I feel…the day will come and go regardless so try your best to enjoy it…I know I am!

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