Post # 1
Im sure most of you ladies have read the previous posts I’vewritten and I feel a bit ridiculous for Doing this.
Lately I’ve been so stressed, moody, tense , and not kind to my fiancé at all. I’m constantly apologizing for the way I say things to him because of the attitude I give when I say it. I’ve been dealing with almost gettIng fired from my job (thank goodness I found a new one) Planning our wedding, and dealIng with taking care of our house.
Last night my fiancé came home after seeing his nephew (his nephew lives with us but goes to see his mom from time to time) my fi comes home saying his nephew was having some problems with his friends. And that this one friend is saying he’s going to beat up his nephew and my Fi. ( Fi nephew is 17 and so is this friend). Anywa. My Fi says,”if I ever see this kid..” which I responded(with attitude) you better not touch him you have everything to loose. (our house his job) and he freaked out saying you can’t tell me what to do, who do you think you are and just screaming at me. I calmly responded i said that because I don’t want anything to happen to you i care about you. We ended up going to bed not speaking. Today Fi comes to me and says you better realize who is boss in this house. Fi used to say things like that all the time but in a playful way. I told him yah and your looking at her. He kept repeating what he said and so did I. He told me he’s leaving for the weekend and going to his parents because he can’t stand the way i talk to him. I’ve apologized multiple times bees, I agree with him I’ve belately high strung lately but I never meant to push him that far where he felt lime he needed to leave. I told him that he’s way of dealing with things is to run away froM them. I told him I’m your wife to be and No matter how rough things got in the 6 years we’ve been together I’ve never ever leaved. He’s set on leaving tomorrow
Post # 3
He’s probably feeling disrespected, and that is very hurtful to men. Just as women need to feel loved, men need to feel respected.
Post # 4
@unknow123: This post is kind of all over the place, but have you thought of pre-marital counseling? It sounds like you’re dealing with many issues… some of them communication, some of them power, etc.. and if you love each other and really do want to marry, it might be helpful to talk some of these things out with a professional. Stress can do weird things to people, so I don’t think either of you are crazy or anything. Maybe let him go to his parents and approach next week with more of an open mind and in a more calm way. It seems like neither of you want to back down… neither of you should be the ‘boss’.
Post # 5
He was just blowing steam talking smack about the kid. Let him do that. It dosen’t mean that he intends for it to legitimately materialize into an ass kicking.
Also, let him leave to blow off the excess tension built from the fighting. There is nothing wrong with taking a hiatus from someone who is irritating you. It’s human nature. Just let him cool off. It doesn’t mean the relationship is over.
Post # 6
Thank for your advice
Its just he packed all his clothes, iits not like It was just a bag. It seems like he’s not planning on coming back
I know I’ve been in reasonable lately but I love him more than words will ever come close to explaining, I don’t know what to do
Post # 7
I have to second relationship counselling.
Post # 8
Counseling, yes – IF you really want this guy. Me? I would be waving bye and wishing him happy trails!
Post # 9
PP have given you great advice. You both need to sit down. There shouldn’t be a “boss” in your house, you are a partnership and decisions should be made mutually.
Post # 10
i read all of your past threads…
He has given you the silent treatment, just a week ago you posted about him contacting an escort, probably a prostitute… now he’s saying he’s the boss?
Seriously dump his ass, please
Post # 11
It is a HUGE red flag that he said you “need to know who is boss”. Tht screams power and control issues which are usually the starting point of domestic violence. Please be careful! And know that you deserve a someone who does not need to “be the boss”
Post # 12
@Cory_loves_this_girl: if man needs to control a woman to feel respected that is a HUGE red flag. Just sayin.
Post # 13
Ummmm…I am not sure why nobody else has said this, but I would leave him. Seriously. I’m not looking to be controlled by anyone or beneath anyone. It’s completely disrespectful the way he talked to you and “put you in your place” so to speak. Relationships are an equal partnership. The fact that this has come up more than once tells me he really means it. Ridiculous.
Post # 14
Between this post and others, I think it’s good riddance. It might feel bad now but in the future you’ll be looking back and being glad you stuck with it and found someone who treats you right. I wouldn’t take him back if he tried to return.
Post # 15
@TheFutureMrsNguyen: There is obviously a huge difference between needing respect and needing control, but the OP is admitting that she hasn’t been speaking to him in the nicest ways. I don’t know details about their relationship, but I can see how someone who is constantly feeling disrespected might need a break or might want to get away.
Post # 16
Perhaps you wouldn’t have shown him so much attitude if you didn’t deep down know he was slutting it up somewhere with escorts/prostitutes. Good riddance to him, let him leave – it will be the best thing for you, you’ll see.