(Closed) I can't believe this is happening…it might be the end

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    He’s probably feeling disrespected, and that is very hurtful to men. Just as women need to feel loved, men need to feel respected.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @unknow123:  This post is kind of all over the place, but have you thought of pre-marital counseling? It sounds like you’re dealing with many issues… some of them communication, some of them power, etc.. and if you love each other and really do want to marry, it might be helpful to talk some of these things out with a professional. Stress can do weird things to people, so I don’t think either of you are crazy or anything. Maybe let him go to his parents and approach next week with more of an open mind and in a more calm way. It seems like neither of you want to back down… neither of you should be the ‘boss’.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    He was just blowing steam talking smack about the kid. Let him do that. It dosen’t mean that he intends for it to legitimately materialize into an ass kicking.

    Also, let him leave to blow off the excess tension built from the fighting. There is nothing wrong with taking a hiatus from someone who is irritating you. It’s human nature. Just let him cool off. It doesn’t mean the relationship is over.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have to second relationship counselling. 

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Counseling, yes – IF you really want this guy. Me? I would be waving bye and wishing him happy trails!

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    PP have given you great advice. You both need to sit down. There shouldn’t be a “boss” in your house, you are a partnership and decisions should be made mutually.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    i read all of your past threads…

    He has given you the silent treatment, just a week ago you posted about him contacting an escort, probably a prostitute… now he’s saying he’s the boss?

    Seriously dump his ass, please

     

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It is a HUGE red flag that he said you “need to know who is boss”. Tht screams power and control issues which are usually the starting point of domestic violence. Please be careful! And know that you deserve a someone who does not need to “be the boss”

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Ummmm…I am not sure why nobody else has said this, but I would leave him. Seriously. I’m not looking to be controlled by anyone or beneath anyone. It’s completely disrespectful the way he talked to you and “put you in your place” so to speak. Relationships are an equal partnership. The fact that this has come up more than once tells me he really means it. Ridiculous.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Between this post and others, I think it’s good riddance. It might feel bad now but in the future you’ll be looking back and being glad you stuck with it and found someone who treats you right. I wouldn’t take him back if he tried to return.

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @TheFutureMrsNguyen:  There is obviously a huge difference between needing respect and needing control, but the OP is admitting that she hasn’t been speaking to him in the nicest ways. I don’t know details about their relationship, but I can see how someone who is constantly feeling disrespected might need a break or might want to get away.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Perhaps you wouldn’t have shown him so much attitude if you didn’t deep down know he was slutting it up somewhere with escorts/prostitutes.  Good riddance to him, let him leave – it will be the best thing for you, you’ll see.

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