(Closed) I cant believe this semi-long

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If it were me I’d push my wedding back to the end of August. You’re going to have a lot of the same guests and people that have to travel any length of time aren’t going to want to come again a few weeks later.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

just tell your mom you don’t want a combined shower?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mp123: This may sound underhanded but you may have to go on the offensive. Keep your wedding ideas to yourself. Get your Save the Dates out first. Have someone else plan your shower, like your Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaids, and have your invites out first.

If you do not want to move your wedding, don’t. I hope this does not become a competition. You deserve your own shower and bach party. Every bride does

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Why not just be happy for your older sister? I am sure she was thrilled about your wedding and she seems to want to share her joy with you by combining events. I say, get past the feelings you’re having and feel lucky that things are going so well for yourself and your family!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would be annoyed as well.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel for you, that is really rough. If you are comfortable moving your wedding to august, I think thats smart, less stress is always a good idea and it will probably make your relatives happy. Also, you can theoretically have your bachelorette and shower after her wedding.

I think it should be pretty easy to explain that you want separate bachelor parties, it might be weird to hang out with people each other doesn’t know for such an intimate event. The shower might be more challanging to be tactful about, but I’m sure if you are firm they will understand. I agree with LuvMySailor — have someone else plan it if its going to be an issue. Would you not also be inviting your close friends and his female family to your shower? I could only imagine it getting confusing for people if they were combined like that.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mixiemixie:

Totally disagree. Why should OP have to sacrifice what she wants for her own wedding events?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I would just move your wedding and say that someone else is having the bridal shower/bachelor party??? I’m not sure how your family would save money from this, because they should be getting each of you a present anyway. Are you each other’s MOH? And how on earth would you guys have a bachelor party together?? Are you fiancé’s in the same friend group?

It really doesn’t make sense….just move your wedding and let your sister have her moment so you can have yours all to yourself. The other stuff is just…weird.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would be livid!  Those dates are way too close.  Your wedding is going to be over shadowed by hers!  If I were you, being the bitch I can be, I would move my wedding date one month EARLIER than hers!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ooohhhh, I would be SO MAD!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s horrible! Two weddings in one family in one year is tough, let alone a month apart. I would be hurt as well. I don’t know how close you two are, but maybe you can talk to her about this?

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Carolyn72: The evil in me says “LIKE”  🙂

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