(Closed) I can't believe what my doctor told me…!!!!

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 5
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah that was not okay. She is there to support you and guide you regardless of how she feels about your choices. What is right for her is not right for another person. I would look else where. 

Post # 6
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Charlies_Angel:  It was probably just a moment of diahrea mouth or thinking out loud. I’d let it slide. She’s going to do her job no matter what and its hard to find a good doctor.

Post # 7
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Charlies_Angel:  meh i always think you should wait at least a year before ttc after marriage (unless youre older). She was just being conversational and giving advice. I doubt she meant it as anything more than sharing her opinion

Post # 8
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t view that as judgemental or bitchy at all.  She was merely giving an opinion….and really, I think she has a really valid point.


I think the only reason to be hurt or miffed would be if she had prefaced it with…”You’d be foolish or stupid to have a baby at your age…..”  which she did not.



Post # 9
4930 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

How rude! Even if she disagrees, that’s NOT her place. 

Post # 10
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Maybe she just trys to be personal with her patients but I think its totally rude. Its non of her business. 

Post # 11
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Get a new gyno..sooo RUDE!! everyone has a different time frame on having kids..she shouldnt give her opinion if you didnt ask for one!! What a Bitch..

Post # 12
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Did she give you proper medical advice after that?  I would give her a chance at one more appointment, especially if I liked her and her practice up to that comment.  Maybe she had a particularly rough night with her own child and forgot to keep her opinions to herself.  Everybody has an opinion about marriage and TTC and babies and I promise you that you will hear it all from everyone, even advice that is blantantly wrong or against your beliefs.

Edit: Re-read it and saw this “ One top of that she didn’t even bother answering my questions or giving me any information on TTC.”  I would change ob/gyns if my doctor refused to answer my questions or provide me with proper medical advice regarding TTC.  At the very least she should have counseled you on folic acid, ovulation (and basic conception to make sure you know how to make a baby; you would be surprised), and a general idea of how long it takes a healthy couple to get pregnant (one year.)

Post # 14
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

i hear that same spiel from everyone – including my therapist!  I just learn to ignore them.  When you’re prego you;ll be getting a lot of unsolicited advice, might as well get used to it now! Don’t get me wrong, I would definitely be annoyed she said it (as I am anyone that does – dr or not) but, if you like her as a doctor I would just let it roll off your back and keep her.  She apologized.  

Post # 15
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I actually agree with her. She also won’t be the last person who tells you that.

Post # 16
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@beachbride1216:  Agreed. OP, I think you should give her another chance. Doctors are humans. Sometimes, they have off days. 

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