(Closed) I cant bend in my dress & have horrid back fat!!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Is it possible it is a little too tight? My dress had a similar structure and I had to lose weight because it was just a little too small and I couldn’t sit comfortably.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 5 months ago by Karenina.
Post # 3
1949 posts
Buzzing bee

-The boning may be too long.  It can be cut shorter so when you sit it doesnt make your whole dress rise

-The back of your dress could be lowered to reduce back fat

– take out the dress around the hips or try compression shape wear on the hips

Post # 4
4400 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would go with the advice from PPs… But you LOOK beautiful, mama always said its better to look good than to feel good! Lol just kidding but for real you look great! 

Post # 5
4097 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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bride1987:  There’s no other way to put it except you chose the wrong dress. One style does not fit all. Is it still an option to find another dress? You don’t want to be in agony on your wedding day. My friend tried to pull off a dress with boning (she’s quite thin) and by the end of the night her torso was literally bleeding, as in seeping through her shirt during the after party. 

Post # 6
3791 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Back fat is a concern of mine too.  I am considering putting a corset back in, not only for looks but also to help give me some wiggle room so I can avoid it on the day of.  Maybe you could consider a corset back?

Post # 7
2633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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bride1987:  I had that problem because I wore a mermaid dress. What kind of bra are you wearing? I used a bit of tape to hold everything down in the back, and my bra was really good so it kept the backfat in place when I adjusted the strap and pushed everything down into the dress.

With the sitting I would lift the hips and thighs of the dress up (pull the dress up) before I sit so I could sit and it wouldn’t be squeezing at the tightest parts of the dress. I also wore shapewear shorts under my dress so the dress was easy to slide up and down 🙂

Post # 8
2274 posts
Buzzing bee

I think your dress looks PERFECT.

If you are really concerned about comfort I certainly think a corset back would solve the problem if you have time BUT a gown designed to be worn with boning WILL NOT look as it should if the boning is removed.

Don’t give up on this dress! It’s beautiful on you!

Post # 9
3725 posts
Sugar bee

Reception dress is maybe your best bet.  Someting you can sit in with ease and dance away the night.  You’ll have done your bridal “thing” by the time the reception comes around. If Kate Middelton can have a recpetion dress for comfort so can you!

Post # 10
1059 posts
Bumble bee

I think you look beautiful but would you be comfortable enough to last the whole day?  I echo the other PPs suggestions of making the dress be as comfortable as you possibly can.  I think back fat is the least of my worries, I’ll worry more about the dress ripping if I try to bend over or do anything out of standing up…

Post # 11
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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Cheekie0077:  Ha! I love that…mama said lol

bride1987:   I’m somewhat worried about the sitting down situation with my dress as well, but from what I’ve been told the dress will give and loosen a bit with your body heat and as you move around. 

Post # 12
1295 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think a corset back helps anything, because people tie them super tight to get a “waist” and then they have backfat/shoulder fat that is apparent all the time.  

I agree that your dress is too tight – have her take it out even 1/2 or 1 inch – you’ll be able to breathe and sit, and it’s not going to make you look bigger!  

Post # 13
696 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I am so sorry you’re unhappy! I think you look fabulous in your dress, at least standing 🙂 I felt like I was all boob when I sat as everything rode up, and yes, it was uncomfortable to sit in my dress… But my view looking down was a lot worse than everyone else’s eye-level view. Is it possible that you’re seeing things from a much more unflattering angle than any photo or guest would ever see? 

As for being uncomfortable when sitting… Unfortunately I think that is a reality in a fitted, formal gown. If you sit on the edge of your seat, and sit up very straight, that should help a bit. If the seamstress is able to let it out just a touch, especially through the hip and thigh, that may help make you more comfortable. 

Also, as soon as you’re wearing the dress for awhile, it will warm up with your body heat and loosen up. This can be a good and bad thing! It will make it a little more comfortable, but I also found myself pulling on my dress to get it to sit up higher when I NEVER anticipated having to do that based on the fit during my final alteration appointment! 

Post # 14
172 posts
Blushing bee

I know how you feel.  Honestly, the fact that I can’t sit in my gown comfortably was the reason I bought a “leaving dress.” I’m getting dressed at the venue about 45 minutes before the ceremony (5:00 pm ish) and staying in it till about 9-9:30 pm ish. I honest to God don’t think I will be sitting for a minute of that (changing into flats!)  I can’t imagine trying to sit/ride in a car in my dress! I know that sounds very insane, but it just looks so good when I’m standing up right haha–I’ve always been a “pain = beauty” type of person though.

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