(Closed) I can't decide if my (soon to be) sister in law likes me.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Honestly, she’s a teenager. Teens are moody and standoffish – I know I was! It sounds like she does enjoy spending time with you, so don’t fret. It could also be that she’s just not ready to let someone she doesn’t know super well be a huge part of her life. You’ve got years ahead to be close, so try not to push it too much or worry – just let things happen. Keep up with offering to do things together, but if she seems uninterested realize she’s probably got a billion things happening in her head at once and it probably isn’t a personal thing against you 🙂

Especially if your Fiance says it’s her personality – he knows her very well, so he’s probably right.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you are over analyzing. Just take the relationship as it comes and develops, while it would be nice to be close sometimes just having a positive relationship is good. You don’t need to be besties with her.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I suspect she is the kind of person that doesnt want to put you out of your way. This is why she wont instigate making plans. You will have to say “Can you go to the movies on X date at Y time?” AS opposed to “Lets see this movie sometime”

This is also why she probably wants to meet you there.1) She doesnt want to feel like a burden and since she likes being aloneand 2), she may be uncomfortable with too much one on one time at the moment. 

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t over analyze it. I think everything you have told us about her sounds like she likes you. You should let her warm up to you. She’s just shy.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

You said she was introverted–I am the same, and I know sometimes that is seen as being cold and aloof, even with people you know. It sounds like she is very thoughtful and kind (especially for a teenager!). I wouldn’t take it personally–give her time to come out of her shell with you. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You totally looking to much into to. Sometimes I prefer to meet people at locations rather than ride together in a car or the train. Its nothing personal, I just want alone time. Everything else seems like she likes you enough. Give it time.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

She’s shy and socially awkward. Just be nice to her. She probably likes you but it having a hard time interacting. Going to the movies is perfect because she doesn’t have to struggle to make conversation.

I don’t know her, of course, but that sounds a lot like me at the age. I wouldn’t overthink it, and don’t expect her to react the same way you might. She has her own reasons for saying/doing things her way that she won’t be able to explain or put into words (even if you asked her, which  I wouldn’t)! Don’t point out or make a big deal if she acts differently than most people, this will just make her feel more self conscious.

It sounds like you two are getting off on the right foot 🙂 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like she suffers (& I mean SUFFERS) from social anxiety.  Just continue being kind to her.  I bet she really likes you a lot. 

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