(Closed) I can’t decide in which country to hold our wedding!!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly, I think it would be so awesome to have my wedding in a different country (meaning UK).  But that’s my personal belief.  I’m having a Destination Wedding, but I’m not sure if it’ll be in Vegas or on a cruise.  FI and I plan to sit down and weigh out the pros and cons of each.  We have to decide what’s more pratical for us.  

That’s the only advice I truly have.  It’s a really hard decision.  Good luck!

Post # 4
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We chose to get married in his church in Haiti versus my hometown in the States because it would be impossible for his family to travel to the States for our wedding. While my extended family can’t afford to come for the wedding, my immediate family will all be here. We’re having our ceremony and reception this December and when we visit my family this summer, we’ll have a reception of sorts there for those who couldn’t be with us in Haiti.

I guess if it’s equally convenient (or inconvenient) for both families to travel, you should just choose the location you want for the ceremony, but I’d suggest having a reception in the other place to make everyone feel included.

Post # 5
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Our original plan was to have our wedding in Hawaii, fly to Asia (where he is from) and have another wedding of some kind there and then fly back to my hometown on the east coast and have a reception there. It was turning into a circus. We picked Hawaii because its directly between his home and mine. In the end, we decided to move our wedding back to my hometown on the east coast, which made sense as my parents are hosting, and then my family will fly to Korea a few months later for something there. That made the most sense to us. I never wanted to have a destination wedding and when we realized that having it in Hawaii wasn’t going to make it much easier for fiance’s family, we moved it back home. 

Post # 6
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

we faced a similar, but lest vast dilemma.  we live together in los angeles, met and fell in love in new orleans (he is a native), and i moved around alot but mostly grew up in new york.  i struggled with la vs nola vs a beach somewhere, but we decided to get married in new orleans.  that was what we would thought would be the most fun for us and our guests, it was sortof (not really)equidistant, and we felt like it balanced the amount of travelling people have to do (my bachelorette is in palm springs, his is vegas, we are going to ny for the holidays).

then my brother decided to get married in san francisco 6 weeks before our wedding, and there went the plan lol.

Post # 7
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We looked at convenience for our guests.  All of my family is in the US, DH’s immediate family and all his friends are in Australia, and the rest of his family is in the UK.   I have a large, close knit family, whereas his is quite small – I knew nearly everyone from my family would consider my wedding a priority, whereas family events are not as huge of a priority for his family.   I also looked at finances – his family is quite well off and would be able to travel quite easily, but with a lot of my extended family, travelling out of country would make things quite difficult. 

In the end, we looked at the UK, Australia, and the US but it made the most sense for the majority of our guests, for us, and financially, to have it in the US.   I will just say though that hardly anyone from DH’s extended family was able to attend – he was ok with it as they’re not all that close, but had the wedding been in England, they would have been there.

I know how hard it is and it stinks, but ultimately, you need to make the best decision for you and your FH.  And as a sidenote, British weddings are quite different from American weddings so you might want to think about what kind of wedding you are envisioning and go from there.  Good luck!

Post # 8
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am having 2 weddings. One for my family over here, and some of FI’s family as well. (Pretty much just parents, siblings, and a couple cousins). Then we are having a second wedding in Macedonia where as most of his family (aunts, uncles, cousins) live there or somewhere in Europe. He has relatives in Italy, Turkey, Serbia, Denmark, and Scotland. So it would be a heck of a lot easier and cheaper for those family members to make it to Macedonia rather than the US. We are taking a 10 day long honeymoon in Crete, Greece and then hanging out in Macedonia with his family for the next 2 weeks.

I’d say if this is an option to you, have 2. That way no one will feel as though they are being cheated and no one will have to travel across the pond! And you get to have 2 very lovely weddings!

Post # 10
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Miss Mochaccino: I have a question, are you both UK citizens, US citizens, or mixed?  Have you checked into all the legalities of the weddings and how long that will all take?  Now, I have no experience on the issue, just purely curious.

Post # 12
2142 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010


Although our two locations were not as extreme as yours, 8 hours diffierence. We looked at venues in both locations and ultimately our decision was based upon who’s family was more likely to travel for the wedding.

We both felt his extended family would be more open and have the financial means to travel for a wedding whereas mine would not.

Another thing to consider for you if you have it in the US is how plausiable would it be to visit venues? It was hard enough for us to find time to visit venues 8 hours away.

GL! It is a hard decision. Once you make it, stick to your guns.

Post # 14
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Have some form of a wedding in both countries! Is that possible?

I just had my ” U.S” marriage [legal, religious & ceremony-nothing outragous], but I still need to get  legally married in Argentina. I will be having a civil ceremony with celebration with my Husbands Argentine family within a year or so.

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