- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I need you all more than ever right now. I just recently posted about how overwhelmed I’m feeling, but it just got so much worse now.
My mom is being so overly rude and acting like she can’t help out at all. The wedding starts at 2:30 pm. I’m staying at a hotel the night before by myself and was planning on leaving the hotel and getting to the church at around 1:30 to get dressed. I didn’t want to leave till then so I could get my hair and makeup done before I left the hotel since there isn’t room at the church, and since I want to be left alone when I do it, and I also don’t want to have to bring a ton of stuff to the church to get ready.
My mom comes in to my room and asks who’s going to be there at the church to let the caterer and everyone and I said I didn’t know, I’d have to find out what time everyone was planning on coming to set up. My mom says “So I take it I’M going to have to be the one to be there?! I wish I would’ve known that before!”
First of all, I didn’t say that. Secondly, why would it matter? Why can’t she be? Why can’t she help me out with this so I can relax that morning and not stress out about having enough time to get ready, or running into my Fiance, etc. It’s not fair.
I’ve planned this whole wedding myself without a stitch of help from anyone, other than financial help. I just want to be able to enjoy my wedding day and relax that morning, because I feel that is what I deserve after working so hard putting this together.
It isn’t a big deal if my mom goes to the church at noon to let the wedding people in, because she has no other duties. I haven’t asked her to help us set up or anything because I know she can’t. I don’t have anyone else other than myself that could take on that responsibility since we are the only members from that church, and only members get a key.
I’m just so upset. She blew up on me for no reason, and it just hurts. I feel like she can’t do me a small favor to make my day less stressful, and instead throws a fit. Then she asks me where my brother and his wife are staying when they come in from out of town, and I said I didn’t know, but everytime the come in and visit they stay at the same hotel. My brother is 16yrs older than I am, I’m pretty sure he can take care of that himself. Why in the world would I be responsible for that? I never have been any other time they’ve visited, and he doesn’t expect me to be, so why did that need to be brought up?
I’m just so upset and I can’t stop crying. I really thought that I would have more help for my wedding day, especially after not asking for help or getting volunteers to help with the planning process. Why can’t my mom just be willing to do one small thing for me? Without throwing a fit and making me feel awful, and possibly making me have to do it myself.
I’m sorry I’m such a downer, but I don’t have anyone else to vent to. 🙁 this just sucks so badly.